FWIW there are a great many developmental psychs. Vygotsky is just one. ZPD, ah, nah not so much. Good in theory, good on paper, thats all Im going to say.
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For my skittish 6-year old I took her on a grassy hill, and she was biking on her own in no time.
most kids learn on their own but some really do need the extra push to learn.
second, i echo the suggestion you put the training wheels back on for now. let him become comfortable with that, and remove the fight aspect of it. compliment him if he can start the pedalling on his own (sometimes it's hard to take off) and brake quickly when necessary. and steering. once he's totally confident in all of the above, tell him he can ride with his brother/friends/whoever after he's learned to ride two wheels. (you may have already done this, but if it's become a fight, it might be an idea to back off for now).
and then remove the pedals AND the training wheels, to use it as a balance bike. i'm planning on doing this with my 5.5 year old this week. i learned by having my dad hang onto my seat while i tried to ride, and i still remember how much it hurt - and this was 30 years ago! so i'm trying this other method. she knows how to pedal. she knows how to brake. she knows how to steer. but she doesn't know how to balance yet, so i'll teach her this and then we'll put it all together last.
they say many kids learn in one day if they do that. my daughter isn't that confident in new things so it'll probably take her longer, but the important thing to keep in mind is to not take the fun out of it (i'm writing that as much for myself as anyone LOL).
Hugs, mama! I have an anxious and cautious child and it's hard to watch them excluded from something that they really want to do because of fear! For my DD, she is absolutely tormented by these feelings.
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My 7 year old DS learned to ride the next day. LOL
I'm all for just letting them get it when they are ready and not pushing at all.
I thought it would take much longer, but 4 days later he asked to have the pedals back on, and rode by himself. The balance bike thing works. I think we will go that route with our baby when he's ready for a bike, rather than put training wheels on at all.
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First this. The reason I want for him to master this skill is that he wants to be able to ride up and down the street with his big brother, but I will not allow it when he's on a bike with training wheels. The training wheels make a lot of noise, which in my mind constitutes a safety concern. We live on a very quiet, closed crescent, but still I wouldn't want him to not be able to hear what's coming up behind him. And that leads into the whole 'being left out' issue as every kid on the block rides up and down our street, including kids who are a good year and a half younger than my little guy.
Anyways, thanks MDC mamas for going all hardcore judgy on me, but really, believe it or not, I'm not as evil as you wish. Kiddo is just fine. He just really wants to be able to ride with his brother and his friends, which means that he really needs to get a handle on the two wheeler thing. Sheesh, what backlash. Yuck.
And um... he's WAY too big for a balance bike. I just got one for my three year old. My 6 and a half year old is tall, and he weighs like 60 pounds.
Okie dokie folks. Thanks for the suggestions, the sarcastic holier than thou feedback, and the entertainment in general. I guess I'd better get back to pressuring my kid to do something so obviously beyond his grasp.
And amateur child experts. Google "Vygotsky, Zone of Proximal Development" sometime.
So you tell him this. "You can ride with your brother when you don't need training wheels." Then back off and let him work on it. No big.
(And I don't say "back off" meaning you are pushing. It's totally innocent. )
Neighborhood friends have made comments but he doesn't care, he's jhust not ready yet. Sometimes he'll let us give him mini-lessons, but he is a very cautious type and just doesn't feel comfy with iet yet, so I'm not pusing the issue.
My 4yo, however, is very bold and physically agile, and has asked continually if I can take the training wheels off his bike and teach him to ride, but I've been putting it off because I think it would be a huge blow for his big brother if he learned to ride first. On the other hand, it might encourage 7yo to try and/or he could practice on the little bike without training wheels and perhaps get comfortable with that before moving on to the big bike.
All in all, I'm just trying to let things fall into place as they will There's no sense in being pushy- I've found that waiting usually results in things working out much more smoothly.
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I have just told him that if he wants to go on a bike ride with family than he will need to ride the bike but i won't push it.
We tried 6 months later with more pedaling success than the last time at the same location
6 months later we took the bikes to a local school's baseball field that had soft dirt and lots of grass. The grass made a slower and softer path to fall on. It gave her the confidence to pedal freely. She was so happy that day later pedaling on our street with all the other kids.
Then a couple of weeks ago she decided she wanted to ride her bike. It is the same bike that she has had since she was four, so it is little for her. She just ran for a bit. Then tried to pedal and kinda of stopped trying. She could get goig if she started on any kind of decline. We spent the afternoon at a park that had sidewalks that slanted down just a very little bit so she could get moving. By the end of the afternoon she was riding really well. The only issue was that the pedals kept hitting her legs but she was so determined to get going on the bike it was ok.
The next day she pulled out the hand me down bike we had in the garage and after a couple of tries she is riding that one.