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It doesnt matter. When ds is ready he will ride w.out them. If he is with a group of kids he will be alert and notice a vehicle, noisy wheels or not.

FWIW there are a great many developmental psychs. Vygotsky is just one. ZPD, ah, nah not so much. Good in theory, good on paper, thats all Im going to say.

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The gym teacher at our school recommended taking the pedals off and letting them run around for a week.

For my skittish 6-year old I took her on a grassy hill, and she was biking on her own in no time.
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If you take the training wheels *and* pedals/chains off his bike (and can get the seat down low enough that both his feet can touch the ground) you'll have a 'balance bike' that will satisfy your noise concerns and give him the excitement of going along with the big kids.
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So get quieter training wheels? Or let him take the natural consequence and be left out?
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For my skittish 6-year old I took her on a grassy hill, and she was biking on her own in no time.
Grassy slope is a good way, from what I've heard. Let him coast down a gentle hill so he can work on balancing without needing to also propel himself. Make sure his seat is low enough that he can put his feet flat on the ground while sitting on the seat.

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Why does he have to ride a "bike"? My kids are just barely starting to have an interest in bicycles (ok, actually the 5.5 yr old is, the almost 8 yr old, not so much at all). Their preferred mode of transportation is either a big wheel type ride or a foot powered scooter. They keep up with the other kids just fine, are confident in what they're riding, and have fun.
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I have had two sons who just picked up a 2 wheeler and road off. One was 4 and one was 7. My eldest son needed a lot of supported riding (dh or I running next to him while holding him and the bike) before he learnt to ride last summer when he was 9. We spent about 6 X 10 minute sessions doing this each day for a week then off he went. yea, we made him do it. Sometimes he didn't like it but we knew if we waited too much longer we just weren't strong enough to run and support him. He weighed 80lb + at the time.

most kids learn on their own but some really do need the extra push to learn.
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first off, big hugs. i can see you're frustrated.

second, i echo the suggestion you put the training wheels back on for now. let him become comfortable with that, and remove the fight aspect of it. compliment him if he can start the pedalling on his own (sometimes it's hard to take off) and brake quickly when necessary. and steering. once he's totally confident in all of the above, tell him he can ride with his brother/friends/whoever after he's learned to ride two wheels. (you may have already done this, but if it's become a fight, it might be an idea to back off for now).

and then remove the pedals AND the training wheels, to use it as a balance bike. i'm planning on doing this with my 5.5 year old this week. i learned by having my dad hang onto my seat while i tried to ride, and i still remember how much it hurt - and this was 30 years ago! so i'm trying this other method. she knows how to pedal. she knows how to brake. she knows how to steer. but she doesn't know how to balance yet, so i'll teach her this and then we'll put it all together last.

they say many kids learn in one day if they do that. my daughter isn't that confident in new things so it'll probably take her longer, but the important thing to keep in mind is to not take the fun out of it (i'm writing that as much for myself as anyone LOL).

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I think a flat grassy area is the best bet to get him going. Then try a grassy slope. Pavement is intimidating! Is it possible that he's embarrassed to try without training wheels in front of other kids?

Hugs, mama! I have an anxious and cautious child and it's hard to watch them excluded from something that they really want to do because of fear! For my DD, she is absolutely tormented by these feelings.

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My oldest was that way. We just let her use training wheels until she was obviously to heavy for them (bending them) Then we took them off and showed her how she could "walk" the bike. (stradle it and move with her feet) She would go a ways and then lift her feet to try to balance a bit. She would try for 5 or 10 mins here and there (not ever day). Finally she got it. At 9 years old I think.
My 7 year old DS learned to ride the next day. LOL

I'm all for just letting them get it when they are ready and not pushing at all.


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My son learned to ride last summer; he was 4 but also would not even think of trying to pedal a 2-wheeler. We did as some have suggested here: training wheels AND pedals off. We showed him how he could just coast along, and put his feet down at any time that he lost his balance (it's crucial that the bike seat not be up too high!) We just turned his own bike into a balance bike.

I thought it would take much longer, but 4 days later he asked to have the pedals back on, and rode by himself. The balance bike thing works. I think we will go that route with our baby when he's ready for a bike, rather than put training wheels on at all.

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Originally Posted by wanderinggypsy View Post

First this. The reason I want for him to master this skill is that he wants to be able to ride up and down the street with his big brother, but I will not allow it when he's on a bike with training wheels. The training wheels make a lot of noise, which in my mind constitutes a safety concern. We live on a very quiet, closed crescent, but still I wouldn't want him to not be able to hear what's coming up behind him. And that leads into the whole 'being left out' issue as every kid on the block rides up and down our street, including kids who are a good year and a half younger than my little guy.

Anyways, thanks MDC mamas for going all hardcore judgy on me, but really, believe it or not, I'm not as evil as you wish. Kiddo is just fine. He just really wants to be able to ride with his brother and his friends, which means that he really needs to get a handle on the two wheeler thing. Sheesh, what backlash. Yuck.

And um... he's WAY too big for a balance bike. I just got one for my three year old. My 6 and a half year old is tall, and he weighs like 60 pounds.

Okie dokie folks. Thanks for the suggestions, the sarcastic holier than thou feedback, and the entertainment in general. I guess I'd better get back to pressuring my kid to do something so obviously beyond his grasp.

And amateur child experts. Google "Vygotsky, Zone of Proximal Development" sometime.


So you tell him this. "You can ride with your brother when you don't need training wheels." Then back off and let him work on it. No big.

(And I don't say "back off" meaning you are pushing. It's totally innocent. )


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I am going through some frustration with getting my 7yo to ride as well, but only because he is WAY too big- physically- for the bike with training wheels. We gave it to his little brother when he outgrew it, and took him shopping for a really cool bike on his 7th birthday. We were dismayed when we realized it was too big for training wheels, they don't even hold up the bike!! Basically he's taken to riding his 2 wheel scooter instead, and he really enjoys that. Every once in a while he'll ride his old bike with the training wheels, but when his knees bump the handlebars it's usually over pretty quickly.

Neighborhood friends have made comments but he doesn't care, he's jhust not ready yet. Sometimes he'll let us give him mini-lessons, but he is a very cautious type and just doesn't feel comfy with iet yet, so I'm not pusing the issue.

My 4yo, however, is very bold and physically agile, and has asked continually if I can take the training wheels off his bike and teach him to ride, but I've been putting it off because I think it would be a huge blow for his big brother if he learned to ride first. On the other hand, it might encourage 7yo to try and/or he could practice on the little bike without training wheels and perhaps get comfortable with that before moving on to the big bike.

All in all, I'm just trying to let things fall into place as they will There's no sense in being pushy- I've found that waiting usually results in things working out much more smoothly.

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No advice...but my son is 4.6 and won't go near a bike at all!...It is super frustrating becuase he is the average size of a 6-7 year old and has outgrown ALL of his little plastic trike/ride on toys and he seriouisly is not going to fit a fun 'character' (like Bob the Builder or Thomas) bike either for much longer. And you guessed it...quickly getting too big for a balance bike too! So - he is gonna be left with no outside toys to play on at this rate! lol


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My son just turned six, and won't even get on his bike with training wheels. Of course this is due to an incident last summer where him and dh had a huge power match and dh yelled and acted like a total a$$.

I have just told him that if he wants to go on a bike ride with family than he will need to ride the bike but i won't push it.

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We tried when she was 5.5 in a deserted parking lot, with nobody around. The She did a bit but then was reluctant beyond a push and a bit of pedaling.

We tried 6 months later with more pedaling success than the last time at the same location

6 months later we took the bikes to a local school's baseball field that had soft dirt and lots of grass. The grass made a slower and softer path to fall on. It gave her the confidence to pedal freely. She was so happy that day later pedaling on our street with all the other kids.
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My 7 year old just learned to ride. The training wheels had been off her bike since last spring(or maybe it was the fall) when she went out riding in a long nightgown and they got caught. So the bike just sat. She rode her scooter around the block and anywhere else she wanted to go.

Then a couple of weeks ago she decided she wanted to ride her bike. It is the same bike that she has had since she was four, so it is little for her. She just ran for a bit. Then tried to pedal and kinda of stopped trying. She could get goig if she started on any kind of decline. We spent the afternoon at a park that had sidewalks that slanted down just a very little bit so she could get moving. By the end of the afternoon she was riding really well. The only issue was that the pedals kept hitting her legs but she was so determined to get going on the bike it was ok.

The next day she pulled out the hand me down bike we had in the garage and after a couple of tries she is riding that one.
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