Join Date: Oct 2003
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I don't know if this is "normal" or if it's a sign of my son being exposed to things he's too young to be exposed to somewhere. He's 6, and he's made a few comments to me about girls.
The first was the most alarming--he was 5 1/2 and he told me in a shy way that he liked to lay in his bed and touch his penis and think about having a girlfriend. I tried not to act shocked and told him thank you for telling me that, and that was very normal, and asked him if anyone had ever touched him or asked him to touch them, and he said no.
He's pretty sheltered as to what he watches on TV, but he did watch ICarly and Big Time Rush when I wasn't home, so I blocked them. He does spend time at my sister-in-law's and she has a 16 year old son, a 21 year old son, and a 22 year old daugher that lives with her, so I thought maybe he heard or saw something from one of them. I mean, I know it's normal for a boy to touch his penis at that age, but I was shocked that he would make a connection between touching his penis and "having a girlfriend."
Then a few days ago, when he was going to bed, he asked me if he could have a pillow to hug. He then said, "I can't believe I'm going to tell you this, but I like hug a pillow when I dream about beautiful women." I said, you can tell me anything, I'm glad you trusted me to tell me that. I asked him if he dreams about a particular woman. He said, she wears a red skirt, has red boots, and she loves me, too.
I'm very concerned! Is it "normal" for 6 year olds to be having these kinds of thoughts? Is it a sign that something's happening to him that I'm not aware of? Any thoughts or shared experiences would be appreciated! Thanks!