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As long as she isn't pushing him really hard to do things that he is uncomfortable with, I would keep taking him. I would expect a couple of more weeks of him sitting out the beginning of the class before he was ready to get in to it, but each week it should be shorter and shorter.
DS went through this kind of thing too. When he started Music Together classes, he spent a week crying and clinging to me in the lobby. We went back each week though, and as long as he could hold Mr Rabbit and hang on to me he was OK. After a while he was fine there. Ten when he started preschool, I had to sit out side in the hall. The first few days he just looked into the classroom but hung on to me. Then he would go in but come out anytime anything frightened him. It took a month, but eventually I was able to drop him off (though he's most of the way through his second year there and still insists I walk him to his classroom instead of dropping him at door from the car-line.)
DS has really learned to be more confident and manage his fears better (DS has a lot of fears.) I believe strongly that gently helping him face fears has been essential in this. I think if we had just avoided the fears completely, by dropping out of classes and preschool, DS would have missed an important lesson. If the fears had not been respected though, by just dropping him off while crying, or not respecting his need to enter music class gradually, then he would have learned the wrong lesson.
You're there with him, so you can just gently encourage him to do what he is comfortable with. He may not really learn to swim this time around, but I would think the learning to handle his fear is worth staying with the lesson. It sounds like a good situation for him to work on handling his anxiety, and to learn how to communicate what he is and isn't comfortable with.
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