(DD just turned 3 and still seems to have a hard time anticipating her potty needs. She's always been slightly behind in gross motor and body awareness, so I'm not surprised. DH is ready to start pushing potty training, but with a 7 week old in the house, I'm not feeling in a position to run her to the potty constantly or throw myself into a training program. I'd rather just wait until she got it. But I am really REALLY ready for her to be ready.....)
The schedule of 'trying' was really important because it helped him learn to associate the internal feelings with needing to go potty. The bribes helped motivate him. I have no trouble bribing a child to go potty. Unlike learning to do other things, this is a short term reward system to achieve a goal that you, the parent, want much more than your child.
However, that being said, I wouldn't do it now. Wait 6-8 weeks until the middle of the summer. Then your new baby won't be a newborn anymore, you'll have established a bit of a routine, and you might have some energy left for potty training. Doing it in the middle of the summer has the advantage of being able to let her go naked or wear nothing under a short dress (don't make it too long or she won't be able to get it up high enough quickly enough).
Letting her be naked has two advantages: clean up is so much easier when she doesn't make it, and you can really tell whether she's ready. If after 3-4 days she's still surprised by the sudden appearance of pee, she's probably not ready and you can try in another month. If she learns to anticipate it, then she's ready.
Now, his younger sister was technically PLed before he was. She was under 3. Because we had potty seats for my son she just helped herself.
Then one day she said, "I don't want to use diapers" and we let her go naked that day. That was the long and short of it. She was right at 3 years old and used the toilet from that day forward. I remember the one nighttime accident that very first night and that was it - she even woke up as she started to pee and caught herself. From day one she was night and day "potty learned", self-led.
He was 3y 11m and 2w old when he self trained with no encouragement from me at all and he went from diapers 24/7 to totally day and night trained within 4 days.
I did have some neat spider man undies that had been given to me that he saw and loved and occasionally wore over his diaper when he got the urge.
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My youngest was about three months past his 4th birthday. He came home from preschool one day and asked why a friend was not in pull ups. I told him and he said he would use the potty from now on too. I do think he would have sooner but we had an extremely stressful year when he was three. We moved, he was in three preschools, he had speech delays and lost his nice therapist and hated the temporary one etc.
We did complete child led learning here. One day at about 3.5 years old my ds decided he didn't want to wear diapers anymore (we did have underwear in his drawer that I had purchased for whenever he might be ready, plus it was on clearance ) and wanted to wear the underwear. He put it on and since then has had exactly three accidents in the past two years (he is 5.5 now). We literally did nothing to encourage it other than buying underwear. It was all him and from that day forward he never wore another diaper. It was actually kind of baffling how easy it was. My dh and I joke that we took the lazy approach to potty learning and lucked out on this one.
First one was a few days shy of 4, and the second one about 3.5. And I actually -was- a bit lazy... three kids close in age, I really didn't want to fight over a potty, I just figured they'd start sooner or later, and they did!
My 20 month old boy is showing interest in the potty, I guess cause he sees his sisters don't have diapers, and he constantly sees them going to the bathroom. He'll let me know when he's gonna poop, but so far, if I take him to the potty, all he does is trying to play with the potty... eek...
my boys I helped. We waited until the weather was warm, and then spent a lot of time naked outside. And naked in the house.
A trick a for girls that a friend taught me is to keep a potty in the car, so when you're out and about you can let her go as needed without having to find a bathroom. That has made life a lot easier.
If you're ready to help her, summer is a great time. In your place I'd stay home for a few days, and keep her in a t-shirt and nothing else, and well hydrated.
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