Originally Posted by MommytoB
but when it comes to home he makes the mess & it makes me look like an unkept housekeeper going and his grandma goes are you glad your away from there .
Sheeeeesh making it look like I created this mess myself yeah right .
I'm not sure what you are saying here... could you clarify? Is there more than just picking up his messes?
For me, I have to clean every day. At least a little bit. I can't wait a week between picking up and cleaning. We are all very tidy, but even in a week, my house would be in disarray. Perhaps you can set up a daily task list for both of you.
What works for us is that until a task is completed (for example picking up the polly pockets or legos that are on the living room floor), nothing else can be done. And be firm about it.
Also, I'm somewhat of a neat freak, so dd sees me cleaning all the time. She enjoys participating in the chores that I do, as well. I'll give her a cloth and vinegar/water solution to go around and clean counter tops, televisions, and various other non-wood surfaces. This gets her excited about helping, in general, and at her age (8) she now does about as good a job as I would, so it really is helpful.
I feel that if she sees me cleaning each day and I am willing to help her (as she is willing to help me), then it keeps everything in its place, all neat and tidy. Perhaps that is the key. He helps you and you help him. Good luck!