|View Poll Results: which of the following self care tasks can your 9 year old do?|
|Wash their own hair||92||100.00%|
|Clip their own nails||59||100.00%|
|Tie their shoes||88||100.00%|
|Make a sandwich (peanut butter or presliced meat)||94||100.00%|
|Heat up a can of soup||54||100.00%|
|Make their own lunch for school||60||100.00%|
|Dish up their own ice cream||79||100.00%|
|Make their own bed||83||100.00%|
|Put on and buckle their own belt||85||100.00%|
|Button or snap jeans||97||100.00%|
|Put on their watch||70||100.00%|
|Multiple Choice Poll. Voters: 11. You may not vote on this poll|
1. Brush Teeth on his own with reminding (You think they would remember these things)
2. Shower alone
3. Dress Self and choose his own clothes but still ask if they look ok and match
3. Tye own shoes
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She can tie her own shoes now, but she still can't dish her own ice cream. At least she asks me to do it, when we have ice cream. I still make her lunch for her. She recently was able to heat up a can of soup.
She doesn't wear a watch nor do we make beds in this house, but she can buckle her own belt. Maybe I'll just go vote in the poll.
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But, I said yes, to every one of those things. Because Yes, she COULD do them.. but, would and could are two different things. She is quite capable of making her own lunch..... but, she's too lazy to get out of bed with enough time to do that.
30yo SAHM of 4 DS's: 10/98, 6/01, 2/03 and 11/04, wife to DH, 33
FTR, 6 (almost 7) yo dd can do all of the same as ds and has fixed her own lunch for school. She is much more interested in self care and being independent.
My family: me , dh , ds (11), dd1 (9), and dd2 (3).
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The only thing on the list that he can do is tie is shoes. And that he learned in the last month. He does have a fine motor delay and some sensory issues, and one of his love languages is 'acts of service', but I really think it's time for him to start doing some more self-care.
If he can't do these things, then I think it's time to go back to occupational therapy.
Of course, there is a difference between "can" and "will" LOL. And some are things that we don't do very often in the house (like make beds -- I can make mine, but I generally don't...). I still make their lunches for school because I also have to make DH's and mine and its just simplier to have one person doing all 4 than having each person make their own.
The 10 YO is actually a pretty good cook, so he has actually made dinner for us on occassion -- well beyond microwaving soup.
Belts and tie shoes are part of their school uniforms so they have had to do that since they were 5 and DS can tie his own tie even. DD ties a square knot on her uniform dress.
I've found that they amaze me as soon as I stand back and actually give them the chance to do these things. DS even had the presence of mind to call 911 last month when DD got hit by a car as they were scootering around the neighborhood. I was so proud of him!
For sure they could dress themselves, make snacks and sandwiches, and make their beds (not that they ever did the last one spontaneously and voluntarily, lol!).
~Katie~ married to J, mom to DD- A 13 yrs ,DS- L 7yrs , and my little nursling DD2- R 5yrs.
However, she doesn't own a watch and since she asks me to put bracelets on for her, I did not check that one.
Also, we own a hand/manual can opener and I don't think I've ever given her the chance to open a can. We don't eat canned food very often. She can only open glass jars with plastic screw-top lids, so if my homemade soup was in one of those, she could heat it up in the microwave. We generally cook on the gas stove and she has never turned a burner on. She knows how to work the microwave and toaster oven, though. I didn't check the soup one, but now I am curious if she can.
Lastly, I did not check the clip nails one. She probably has the motor skills to do it, but I do it for both of us every two weeks like clockwork. Can and will are viable considerations on this one. Even when I teach her to do it herself, I wonder if she WILL. She tends to pick her nails.
ETA: DD is home from school now, so I asked her all of the above questions. I got it all right except she does know how to put on a watch, which is generally easier than a bracelet. Also, she removes old nail polish herself and applies new polish herself (outside for both). We're about to find out if she can clip her own nails because two broke at school today and she wants to even them out...... Okay, I'm back. She was able to clip the fingernails on her left hand with a little verbal guidance. The thumbnails were too thick for her to do solo. She will need to practice more to do her right hand. She didn't try toenails today. I foresee her being able to clip her own nails 100% by the end of summer easily.
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We never have canned soup, so I don't know if he can. I don't think he can use a can opener - I can't use a manual one (it's a left-handed thing, I think) and our electric one is half-broken and tempermental. He's homeschooled, so there's no need to make lunch for school, but he can make his own sandwich so, . His bed is a loft bed, and *I* can barely make it. What a PITA.