OK so here's the story: DD (7)has a hard time making friends and has had a history of being bullied, ds(4) doesn't on either score, we were at the park yesterday and ds's best friend(5) started teasing DD, DD asked for her to stop and of course she didn't after this went on for a while, dd lost it, I mean i've never seen her so angry with someone, she screamed and shouted at ds's bf and I then asked the mother to intervene as she was sitting there oblivious to the situation or maybe just not wanting to see what was going on.
I guess I found it hard as, as you all know we have this thing about controlling emotions, I try not to, but in the park which was really busy I didn't like the fact that many people were talking about her reaction - I didn't find that I was embarrassed - which also took me by surprise, I don't want to block her emotions and I understand that the situation WAS very frustrating for her - they girls do have a history of not getting on, but how do I help her to express her emotions but just not in such a strong way - or should I just let her stand there and be really angry - I asked if she wanted to gather her thoughts and have her have a few minutes to herself but no she wanted to stand there and be cross and angry - I also understand that having such a strong reaction is a positive thing but out in public isn't socially acceptable and now I'm feeling a little lost, I don't want to stop the emotion but need to give her the skills to control them in a more socially acceptable manner - any thoughts?
Thanking you all in advance
I guess I found it hard as, as you all know we have this thing about controlling emotions, I try not to, but in the park which was really busy I didn't like the fact that many people were talking about her reaction - I didn't find that I was embarrassed - which also took me by surprise, I don't want to block her emotions and I understand that the situation WAS very frustrating for her - they girls do have a history of not getting on, but how do I help her to express her emotions but just not in such a strong way - or should I just let her stand there and be really angry - I asked if she wanted to gather her thoughts and have her have a few minutes to herself but no she wanted to stand there and be cross and angry - I also understand that having such a strong reaction is a positive thing but out in public isn't socially acceptable and now I'm feeling a little lost, I don't want to stop the emotion but need to give her the skills to control them in a more socially acceptable manner - any thoughts?
Thanking you all in advance