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Mama to my beautiful Ana Carolina (2/07), Isabel Cristina (6/10), and #3 on the way in August 2013!
Snack is so important. Unfortunately, today, no snack was in the fridge. Also I wanted to fix dinner right after nursing. If she snacks right before dinner, she often won't eat dinner. But I would've given her an apple at least.
Would you say with the highly difficulty child, that I should pick a battle, instead of fighting over every issue, which is so exhausting. For example, should I have stopped nursing and putting down the crying baby and got her pants or closed the window because she is tired and cranky? I try to be consistent but it's not easy.
Banana, doula wife to Papa Banana and mother to Banana One, Banana Two, Banana Three, Banana Four...
When you have a kid that age and an infant it's compounded. There is a tendancy to look at your 4 big year old and look at the tiny helpless infant in your lap and think- "this kid is NOT a baby anymore, she shouldn't act like one, she's a kid..." The problem is that while she certainly isn't a baby, she's not a real "kid" either. Preschool age is a struggle,the change-over from toddler to kid is a long process, it sputters along. It's only in retrospect, when I can see how different my now 6 year old is from my then 4 year old, that I can appreciate that difference. And I wish that I had that clarity then, because I was too hard on her and I expected too much at times, which made it hard on both of us. My 6 year old does, pretty much, what is expected of her. She will clean her room or put away her clothes, or help her sister. At times I have to nag, but she does it. The same girl, at four, would do things like that if she was in a mood to help, or if I could make a game of it, etc. But if I tried to mandate it, it would turn into a screaming fest or a tantrum. It wasn't worth it.
She has a habit of saying she was sad while crying when I discipline her. When I get angry with her behavior, she wants sympathy. But if I give her hug and she calms down, but that would blur the issue at hand. She gets away with her bad behavior so I don't want to give her hug.
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