This may be a bit long but I want to try and explain it all, so here goes....oh and my dd is 5.5 yrs old.
On the fourth we went to a friends block party. My dd knows and goes to preschool with a couple of the kids there. Once we got there she got very shy, cried during the bike parade (but wanted to do it). Then she wanted to go play with the kids at one of the houses. I took her over, she was nervous and didn't want me to leave. I stayed a bit and both dd1 and dd2 (younger) stayed to play while I went to tell dh where we were. I come back a few minutes later and she is crying and the other kids have gone outside to play. This is totally not like her. We got her to go home and nap (with me) and we went back in the eve (she wanted to). Same thing, she seemed scared and wanted us with her. Later that evening I used the bathroom in that same house and dd was with me.
Ok, now fast forward to last night. I come home and dh tells me she's been upset and saying she has a crazy thought. I go and snuggle with her and we start talking. After a long while she tells me she's afriad "someone is going to poop on my head" and she just wants that thought out of her head.
I push her a bit and she tells me that at the kids house yesterday there was an older girl (who I had seen, and Indian exchange student, reading in the livingroom) who scared her. She says when she was crying the girl was looking at her (which to me is probably normal). Anyway, she finally tells me she is afraid of this girl and is afraid she will poop on her head. She is shaking her head and hiding her face with her hands.
Ok, so now I'm totally alarmed. This is bizzare behavior for my dd. I ask her serious questions like "did she try and touch you?", "did she say anything to you?", and dd says no. Finally I give her a back rub and teach her how to physically use a motion of pushing with her hands, to help her get rid of the thought, she goes to sleep.
I don't know what's going on? Is she just scared of this girl because she looks different? She said she knew she was from a different country. I'm just not understanding why it would get twisted into this whole bathroom scenario? Both dh and I are worried. I called the babysitter today and she said dd has mentioned a few times she needs to get the crazy thought out of her head