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sorry you're all feeling bad. that was a tough situation.
i'm guessing i'll be in the minority once all the advice and support comes in, but i would have invited the whole class, especially if it was only 3 kids not coming. i don't know what class sizes are like in your school, but if it's like where i'm from, then 22 out of 25 got invited. that seems like a bit more of a slight (i understand your reasoning) if half the class didn't get invited. if they were a bit older, i'd probably have let her pick, but 5 is so young for that, imo. while your daughter is certainly learning a lesson about boundaries, i'm sure there's a lesson that also could have been learned had you talked to her about inviting the other little girl (empathy? foregiveness? fresh starts? fairness?). i went to a pre-K-12 school and some of the kids i couldn't stand in first grade i liked a lot as we got older.
anyway, i really doubt many/any will agree with me, but i just wanted to throw that out there as food for thought.
hugs all around. sounds like a tough situation. hopefully word doesn't trickle down to the kids.
|i'm guessing i'll be in the minority once all the advice and support comes in, but i would have invited the whole class, especially if it was only 3 kids not coming. i don't know what class sizes are like in your school, but if it's like where i'm from, then 22 out of 25 got invited. that seems like a bit more of a slight (i understand your reasoning) if half the class didn't get invited.|
|but i would have invited the whole class, especially if it was only 3 kids not coming. i don't know what class sizes are like in your school, but if it's like where i'm from, then 22 out of 25 got invited|
3 of the GIRLS were not invited, not 3 of the class. most of the boys were not invited.
I see nothing wrong with what the OP did. It's ridiculous to invite everyone to a party.
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Yep, it hurts like hell to be one of the 1 or 2 not invited to a party.
While I agree with this... I have to say I had some horrid birthday parties because my mom was so nice she invited everyone. What happens is the other kids at the party know who should have been left out and then they are mean to that kid at the party. The parents step in and it gets ugly and the gossip goes on for weeks.
Why attend a party that you aren't wanted at? Why have your kid attend one if its this way? If the children aren't friends... it is far better not to have invited them in the first place.
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