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Thank you all for your thoughts!
4evermom - I see what you're saying. Maybe rather than a bowl out on the kitchen table where it would be seen the vast majority of the day, I'll put it in a kitchen drawer and simply tell them that they don't need to ask. That I trust they'll use the drawer responsibly.
I do also like the idea of a secret stash that's maybe filled with their candy for the week and they can do with it as they please.
I just don't want candy / sugar to be a battle. Heck, she was sneaking Dark Chocolate!!!! That's health food in my book so why she felt like she needed to sneak is beyond me.
We did talk more about it before bed because she's really struggling with guilt. She's such a "good girl". She rarely does anything wrong so for her, this is big. I'm trying to minimize it and not make it about the candy but rather stress that she doesn't have to hide it or sneak. She said she was too embarassed to ask for more. I don't get this and I asked her if she had asked me what she thought I would have said and she says she knows I would have said yes. So, I don't get the sneaking thing.
Anyway, I just stressed to her how much I loved her and how she can ask me anything, talk to me about anything. That she doesn't have to hide and sneak things - especially candy. She says she knows it was silly. So, things ended well.
So, we'll see how the free access to the candy goes. Although the reality is that they basically had free access before. It was right there and all they did was ask and I rarely ever said no.
But, at this point, I've told them they don't have to ask - I just encouraged them to act responsibly.