|interesting. i have 5 children and have set up play dates all along. i could give a hoot if i shower. lol i just put on deodorant and brush my teeth and hair. we tend to do alot of things outside though so it isn't that much of a hassle for either party, the kids run around outside together and the moms chill and watch what is going on. i usually bring plenty of food and water and we could be out all day. that way you can plan something for multiple kids at once. set up a park day with a couple moms with kids your kids ages.
As far as the shower goes- that's not why I dont have time for playdates.
I really like playgroups at parks or taking turns having them in our back yards.
It's the playdate thing that drives me crazy. One kid is upset and wants to join it, the other kids wants time alone with their friend. I have to cook and take care of baby......
It's just not worth the hassle sometimes. And DD and DS do play together for hours.
|i have totally gotten over my issues with other people having my kids over too, that helps when you get to know the other families by hanging out together. you see how they respond to their kids and how they are in general as people.
I will not ever get over those issues.
My mother was very protective of us as young children and Im as annoying as it was, I am very grateful.
I had a friend in 4th grade and my mother new her father for a few years. he was a very man whos wife passed away a while back.
She felt it was ok to let us have a playdate and dropped me off.
About an hour into the playdate the father was drunk and throwing darts at his younger daughter. I should not have had to see that. I was always upset and didnt know how to handle it when I saw this friend in school, so I couldnt talk to her.
My sister was on a playdate when she was around 10 with a very nice catholic family. We knew them from school and church. The girl had an older brother (19) who would pass by the girls while they played and say little things to my sister.
She was 10, loved the attention, didnt see harm in it, didnt tell my mother.
So, after 5 years of these monthly playdates, they were having sex. That's right she was 15 and he was 24.
They were a "nice family, all acted well together, no reason anyone in the neighborhood would think anything but the best of them.
As much as you think you know a family, you really have to be sure.
I only have one family that I REALLY know that I could leave one of my children with.