Does anyone have a 7yr old like this? *Super* Competitive? - Mothering Forums

Forum Jump: 
 
Thread Tools
#1 of 3 Old 09-01-2010, 01:42 AM - Thread Starter
 
greenmom17's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2008
Posts: 291
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
My oldest dd is 7.5, and is beautiful, smart and the single most competitive person I've met in my life. *Everything* is a competition - she always has to be first, be the best, be the fastest, etc.

Especially with her brother (4), who has some sensory issues, speech issues and is much less coordinated and athletic than she is. He ADORES her, and she eats it up. She is good to him - they are always playing together, they cheer eachother on, but she must win or she throws a fit, literally crying and pouting. He can never be the first one down the stairs, or use the best swing, or use the #1 remote, etc.

DS is pretty good at Wii, and they like to play together sometimes. The other day ds was about to win a race and dd was screaming at him to put down his remote because she wasn't winning...he put the remote down...and dd won the race and yelled "I won! I won!" It's completely out of hand.

I have 0% of that in me, my dh is somewhat competitive, but she's incredible.

She's always showing off in one way or another, and it's getting annoying. I'm ALWAYS correcting her in these situations, it's not like I let it slide. But lately I'm worried that her behavior is going to alienate her in school and the kids won't want to be friends with her b/c of her competiveness.

She's uber-smart and I believe she also has ADHD, if that means anything...anyway just looking for anyone who might have a child like this - maybe it's normal at this age?

Mom to:
DD (1/03) , DS (9/05) , DD (10/09)
greenmom17 is offline  
#2 of 3 Old 09-01-2010, 06:15 AM
 
lifeguard's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2008
Location: Coyote Rock Farm
Posts: 6,574
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 1 Post(s)
My nephew is like this. He is now 10 & it is definitely improving. To add to this his parents pretty much do NOTHING to improve it so the improvement is simply maturation (& perhaps input from teachers/coaches).

Surviving sleep deprivation one day at a time with dd (Oct '11) & ds (Oct '08).

lifeguard is offline  
#3 of 3 Old 09-01-2010, 11:17 AM
 
meemee's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2005
Location: Norther California
Posts: 12,761
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 16 Post(s)
i think its the age + personality.

i think its also linked to perfectionism. i notice with my dd she has to know she will get it before she tries it. for the first time. otherwise she loses interest quickly.

she has no sibling so i am her competitor. even while walking to the car she has to get there first. at wii with her friend she doesnt ask him to put the game down. what she does is stop playing if she is not good at it.

since its the two of us i dont say anything. because life is teaching her at school. i know its an age thing because i've seen her friends do the same thing.

 treehugger.gif Co-parent, joy.gifcold.gifbrand new homeschooling middle schoolerjoy.gif, and an attackcat.gif 
meemee is online now  
Reply

Quick Reply
Message:
Drag and Drop File Upload
Drag files here to attach!
Upload Progress: 0
Options

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on the Mothering Forums forums, you must first register.
Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.
User Name:
If you do not want to register, fill this field only and the name will be used as user name for your post.
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.
Password:
Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.
Email Address:

Log-in

Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.



User Tag List

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page


Forum Jump: 

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off