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#1 of 2 Old 05-10-2002, 12:26 AM - Thread Starter
 
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My ds has always been a cuddler and very clingy, for lack of another word right now. I love to hold him and be mommy for as much as I can, but lately we are having a terrible time. I feel like we are spiraling out of control.
I am a passionate person I guess and I have been getting frustrated too easily. Ex. Today I kept ds out too long, knowing I should have taken him home for his nap. But I thought "we can handle one more greenhouse." Duh. He did fine at the greenhouse since he was helping to pick out plants for the garden and pulling the red wagon, but when we got home, all he!! broke loose. He simply could not calm down enough to take his nap even though I tried laying down with him. I was really looking forward to a nap myself since I am picking up dh at the airport at 11:30 pm. So I lost it and was screaming. I tried to walk away from him to cool down, but I couldn't leave him--or rather he wouldn't leave me.
I feel so bad every time we do this. I hate it. I also can't see outside my box right now to do a better job. Can someone help? We are working on #2 and I don't have the energy to do this with 2 children.
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RasJane - How old is your son?

It *is* really hard to calm down if your child won't let you walk away! Maybe you could just take him in your arms, say "Let's breathe" and take 10-15 slow deep breaths. Katrina Kenison writes about doing something like this in her book, 'Mitten Strings for God: reflections for Mothers in a hurry' It works for me.

Also - your son might be going through some sort of stress/growth spurt where he needs extra sleep or food. I would try several days of peaceful routine: waking, sleeping, eating, going out at the same time every day - and see if that helps.

These difficult periods pass. By the time you welcome a second child into your family, your little boy will have grown so much! It will be fine
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