I'm certainly not one for conforming or "fitting in", but there are a few things where my son (who will be 5 in a couple of weeks) is quite atypical that have me a little concerned. He is a very outgoing, happy, social boy who is very smart and loves books, doing art, and has a VERY active imagination. BUT, when it comes to many physical things, namely learning how to ride a scooter or even the thought of trying out a bike w/training wheels is not his thing. Now, my husband did go out and get him a scooter this past spring, and strangely enough ds will initially seem interested in taking it out, but after about a minute of barely trying to get going on it he gets frustrated (or maybe simply disinterested) and doesn't want to do it anymore. Both DH and I have tried to gently help him, encouraging him that he can do it, DH has even had him stand on it while he pushes it along. And sometimes he'll spend a few minutes kind of limping around on it, and I can tell he feels good about getting better at it, but it never goes any farther than that and then he's DONE. Basically, there's no way he'll be able to ride it if he doesn't spend more time than he is right now on it.
And even mentioning getting a bike w/training wheels hasn't gotten the response I had hoped for. He truly does not seem interested in trying that out at all! On one hand, I can respect this and it's not our parenting style to force stuff on our kids. But we happen to live in a neighborhood where most of the kids are either on scooters or bikes, and I'm wondering how this will affect him socially if he's the only kid in his age group who doesn't do these things. And I'm afraid that the older he gets, the more resistant he'll get to trying them. I know, because I myself was afraid to learn how to ride a bike and was the only kid who didn't (and deep down I hated that I couldn't do it, and would sometimes get teased about it).
In other ways, he's also not as daring or reckless as many boys I've observed. For instance, he just recently overcame a fear of going down a big ladder on the side of a jungle gym, and even still doesn't want to go down a big spiral slide. On the other hand, he loves to wrestle, runs really fast, and enjoys soccer class (although he doesn't have a competitive bone in his body, he does have a blast). So it isn't that he doesn't like being physical, per se, but just doesn't like anything that could be in the least bit "scary".
Has anyone else ever known of a boy this age not into this stuff? I don't want to give him any hangups about this, but I'm also wondering how I can best help him to overcome these fears. Any suggestions would be great appreciated.