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#1 of 38 Old 10-04-2010, 10:04 PM - Thread Starter
 
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What time do your kids go to bed/wake up?

I'm trying to get into an early grove for bed time, because DD does NOT nap and I want her to get a full nights sleep. Lately it's been 7:30-7 but I'm trying to get her sleeping BY 7

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DS goes to bed around 9pm and wakes up between 7-8am. He takes a 1-3 hr nap in the middle of the day as well. We live in a small, lively apt and I don't get home from work until 5 or 6 so I don't mind him being up late. He also isn't in school or daycare so there's no pressure to wake up early.

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At the age of three our girls needed roughly twelve hours of sleep. Our second DD probably needed a little more than our first DD, but they were pretty comparable in terms of the amount of sleep that they needed.

Kids are different though, and you can't necessarily tweak sleep. In fact, I think you're quite lucky if you can do it. A lot of preschoolers are really hard wired, especially for wake-up times.

Our oldest would always sleep for exactly twelve hours at night. If something kept her up late, she slept in late the next morning. In contrast, our younger DD always woke up at the same time, and we had no choice but to work backwards from that.

Our girls are 5 and 6 now. They are still somewhat like this, but it isn't as pronounced now that they are older. Younger DD can sleep in a little bit now, though not as much as she needs to when she's up late, and so it's still important to watch when she gets to bed. Older DD is still inclined to sleep in if she needs it, but not quite as much as she used to.

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For our 3 yo DS, in theory it's 7pm. When I put him to bed, we're upstairs around 6:45pm-7pm so he'll be asleep by 7pm. However, with my DH, it can vary up till 8pm.

He wakes up anywhere between 6am - 7:30am. It seems like the later he goes to bed, the earlier he wakes up.

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DD goes to bed at 7pm but doesn't fall asleep right away. She's asleep around 7:30pm (sometimes as late as 8pm). She's up at 7:15am (very rarely sleeps an extra 15 minutes). She doesn't nap, hasn't since 20 months old.

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I put mine to bed at 7. But they only rarely fall asleep at that time-- it ranges from about 7:15, on a really tired day, to close to 8:30 on other days, and they've been known to still be up looking at books until past 9. They recently gave up napping though-- so they've been doing better with falling asleep earlier. I have three kids in one room-- both three year olds, and my six year old as well-- and my six year old NEEDS to be asleep by 8 or she can't get up for school, so having them asleep earlier is a priority for me. If the twins aren't asleep, then DD1 stays up, too.

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My son....4 next month....goes to bed about 10-11....if he hasn't napped and is extra sleepy he will fall asleep like 930ish....on the couch or in the car. He sleeps in our bed so generally goes to bed with me. He wakes generally by 8/9....we are fortunate that on our schedule he doesn't have to wake earlier...with me though he usually wakes earlier but on days I go to work he sleeps in with daddy.
Works for us and I can't see him going to bed before 9....we are lucky to have dinner by 7ish.

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Ds goes to bed at around 10, and sleeps about 9 hours, sometimes 10 at the most.

He never naps, even on long car rides
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Dd doesn't nap either. She's usually in bed by 7:30, but sometimes later. I think we could push it back to 7:00 in bed, but we haven't. She usually gets up at 7:30 or 8...sometimes 6:30 or 8:30, though.
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DD goes to sleep btwn 8-8:30pm and is up around 7:30-8am.

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At 3, mine was sleeping 7-6, with a 2 hour nap. Sometime right around 4, his sleep needs really went down, but until then, he was always really sleepy.
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My 3 ye old goes to bed between 9-10:30 pm (or later on the weekends), and gets up at 8 am for school (will sleep until 9:30-10 am on the weekends).

We don't even eat dinner until 7 pm or later, so he'd never to to bed that early.

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Ds usually goes to sleep around 8 or 8:30 and wakes anywhere from 7-8:30. He doesn't take a nap (except on rare occasions in the car or if he's sick or something).

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My kids go to bed early, cause we go to bed early, too. Dh and I are usually headed to bed by 9; no later than 9:30.
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Our 3 year old goes to bed at about 9, falls asleep at about 10, wakes up at 7:30. He naps 1.5-2 hours. I work so we come home at about 6:30, have dinner at 7:30.

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Bedtime is officially 8pm, but many nights he'll still be awake at 9. He wakes up between 6-7am, though sometimes is up at 5am or 7:30am (he can't sleep longer than that during the week because we have to take his sister to school.) IF he naps, it'll be for 30mintues-1hr, depending on how long we're in the car (he only naps in the car now and wakes up as soon as I get him out of his carseat.)

I've considered doing an earlier bedtime, but there are many nights when dh isn't home before 7 and I've found that if ds can have some time with daddy before bed, he goes to sleep better.

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DD is 4, but she's had the same sleeping schedule for at least 2 years. She wakes up around 7-7:30. She takes a 2-3 hour nap every day and is asleep for the night around 9:30. So she's getting about 12 hours of sleep. This works well for us right now with our work/preschool schedules. This routine has been so solid for so long, though, that I'm already wondering how we're going to shift into a schedule that works with kindergarten next year if she doesn't phase out her nap on her own by then!
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My dd is 3 and she goes to be around 8-8:30 and is usually up by 7:30, sometimes 7. She still needs a nap during the day, otherwise she is just a cranky mess. Some days she doesnt get a nap (the fight can be too much) but she still goes down around 8 and gets up around 7. My younger dd is 20 months old and her sleep schedule is the exact same as the old one, except she almost always takes a nap. At least a 2hr one. Both my kids are up by 7:30 at the latest, no matter what time they go to bed. They are like me, internal clock says GET UP when the sun comes up. My DH could sleep till noon, and I see many kids can sleep late. Mine dont. But I love that they go down at 8ish because that gives DH and I alone time to reconnect from the long day.

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DD is 4, but she's had the same sleeping schedule for at least 2 years. She wakes up around 7-7:30. She takes a 2-3 hour nap every day and is asleep for the night around 9:30. So she's getting about 12 hours of sleep. This works well for us right now with our work/preschool schedules. This routine has been so solid for so long, though, that I'm already wondering how we're going to shift into a schedule that works with kindergarten next year if she doesn't phase out her nap on her own by then!
We also have a (just) 5 year old in K, and it is indeed an issue that she is not napping anymore. She is tired at 8 pm, but of course does not want to go to bed earlier than her little brother (3 year old, often naps for 2 hours). Our compromise is to have a bedtime of 9 pm, she falls asleep right away (3 year old takes an hour) and we let her sleep longer in the morning, but then she has very little time to get ready in the morning, not ideal.

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DS is 3.5 and just gave up napping for the second time about a month ago. He sleeps from 7 to 6:30.
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unless in the car, dd1 (just turned 3) stopped napping around 2. back then, bedtime was 10pm & she would get up for the day around 10am & take one short nap.

lately, bedtime starts much earlier now...for a few reasons but mostly, cuz frankly, with the baby too, i just needed my day to end earlier. she gets into bed on avg at 8:30, we read a story & then she watches something on this small portable dvd player & falls asleep. could be anywhere from 9-10pm & she has been waking between 8-9 am. once in awhile, she will sleep till 10am.

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Ds is one of those kids who wakes up at the same time no matter when you put him to bed. His set wake up right now is 6:15. We had about eight months of 5:00, I nearly went out of my mind. The funny part is, within two days of changing the clocks, he's back to his original wake up time. How does he do it?

Bedtime is about 7:15. He's down to naps about half the time, anywhere from 45 minutes to 2 hours. Everyone in our family needs a lot of sleep, so early to bed for DS means that DH and I actually get to spend time time together.
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We are in the process of revamping bedtime, but dd is 3.5 and I aim to get her in bed by 8-any later than that and it turns into a fiasco. She is usually up between 7-8 am. She does not nap and hasn't for more than a year. Our biggest struggle is starting the bedtime routine early enough (around 6:30) to get her settled down on time, but today went really well and she was asleep with no tears at 7:45 pm (lights out at 7:30)

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DS1 is 3.5 and recently dropped his nap. He goes to bed ~8-8:30 and is asleep by 8:30-9pm. He wakes up ~7-8am so around 10-11 hours of sleep. He does OK.

ETA: Wake up time his by his choice (except for a couple times a month, we generally don't have to be anywhere in the mornings), so I figure he's getting what he needs.
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DD2 is usually out by 7:30, 8 at the latest and up by 6-6:30.

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3 yr old DS goes to sleep between 8-9pm and gets up between 8-9am typically. Most days it's 8 to 8. In any case, he gets about 12 hours. He never naps and hasn't napped since he was 15 months old.
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For those of you whose kids are waking at 8 or so (or whenever really) do they get to see both parents (assuming two parent home)?

DS would sleep from 8 to 8 I am sure if we let it go that direction, but we really like Ds to see DH both morning and night, though only a little at each.

Just curious.
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For those of you whose kids are waking at 8 or so (or whenever really) do they get to see both parents (assuming two parent home)?

DS would sleep from 8 to 8 I am sure if we let it go that direction, but we really like Ds to see DH both morning and night, though only a little at each.

Just curious.
DS2 is 3.5. He's usually asleep by 8, wakes between 6:30 and 7:30 the latest. (Though today he was up at 6:00) . Doesn't nap, unless in the car. DH usually hasn't left for the day by the time the kids wake up - but I wouldn't wake them just to see him. I never wake them unless I have to. A couple times a week he ends up getting home later than their bedtime, and just sees them in the morning.
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DS sleeps from about 7:30 or 8pm until between 7 and 8am. He doesn't usually nap.

We're lucky enough to live about 3 minutes away from DH's work, so DS sees him in the morning before work, after work, and often at lunch time.
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My 3yo ds goes to sleep around 9pm and wakes up between 7:30 and 8:30am.

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