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#1 of 6 Old 10-13-2011, 06:26 PM - Thread Starter
 
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if your child is in full day pre-k, how do they behave after you pick them up? after pick-up time, we generally spend some time in the courtyard space outside his montessori school with some of his classmates.  my 4.5 year tends to be very loud and goofy in his play, at times. today i watched couple of moms giving my son "that look" as if to convey 'look at that unruly kid'. i don't know...he's spending 7 hours in school following the rules, so maybe he wants to get some sillies out, as it were...i do give him a warning everytime he gets loud, but it's not always met with compliance. background, one of these glaring moms has a daughter, who, most of us have observed, gets other kids in trouble by crying unnecessarily about everything. i have had a minor run-in with her. so maybe she reacts to that.

 

but, i want to be proactive if he is indeed behaving unacceptably. so, please do share. how are your kids after-school.

 

 

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Uh... loud in the school yard after school?  Don't all kids do that???

 

I wouldn't worry about it mama, I think it's very normal little kid behaviour.  He's just using his "outside voice" after all.  ;)

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Being loud...outside...on a playground...is not inappropriatelol.gif -- unless he is directly yelling in someone's ear.

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 background, one of these glaring moms has a daughter, who, most of us have observed, gets other kids in trouble by crying unnecessarily about everything. i have had a minor run-in with her. so maybe she reacts to that.

 

but, i want to be proactive if he is indeed behaving unacceptably. so, please do share. how are your kids after-school.

 

 


Loud voices outside on the playground while playing - fine. However, I find shrieking and screaming annoying no matter where it happens, even outside. There's a certain vocal range that might get a look (not a glare - just difficult to ignore) from me if I was in the vicinity. I find girls are the worst culprits for it though. 

 

I did want to comment about the little girl who cries "unnecessarily". She may have sensory processing issues, where she had difficulty taking in and integrating sensory information from everything around her. She may be extremely sensitive and crying may be an outlet for her. Or maybe there are other issues. It's hard to tell from your post whether this is the case, but if so, she deserves a little sympathy. At least as much as your ds who needs "to get some sillies out" at the end of the day. Different kids, different issues, different needs, yk? smile.gif  

 

 

 

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Loud voices outside on the playground while playing - fine. However, I find shrieking and screaming annoying no matter where it happens, even outside. There's a certain vocal range that might get a look (not a glare - just difficult to ignore) from me if I was in the vicinity. I find girls are the worst culprits for it though. 

 

I did want to comment about the little girl who cries "unnecessarily". She may have sensory processing issues, where she had difficulty taking in and integrating sensory information from everything around her. She may be extremely sensitive and crying may be an outlet for her. Or maybe there are other issues. It's hard to tell from your post whether this is the case, but if so, she deserves a little sympathy. At least as much as your ds who needs "to get some sillies out" at the end of the day. Different kids, different issues, different needs, yk? smile.gif  

 

 

 


that is what i thought initially, too. and was sympathetic , until i saw her with two kids she spends most time with-they were all being loud, no sensitivities there. it's the kind of dynamic that you observe going on for some time. reactionary and excluding to certain kids she does not like. incidentally, i am wondering about sensitivities (of a different nature) in my own child. but, that is another thread.

high-pitched screams grate, i agree. his is more like 'excited boy being loud' kind of noise. and never in anyone's ear.

i try to keep the volume down, but after a day of 'remember your indoor voice' and (montessori) 'silence games' he is not always compliant.

 

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Completely normal!  All of mine do that, even my 6 yr old. 


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