Cell Phone - Mothering Forums

Forum Jump: 
 
Thread Tools
Old 02-07-2012, 01:51 PM - Thread Starter
 
LittleBlessings's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2008
Location: Canada
Posts: 1,103
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

At what do you think a child should get a cell phone for the sole purpose of being able to contact them and have them be able to contact you at any time?

 

The phone would not be for chatting or texting friends 

LittleBlessings is offline  
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
Old 02-07-2012, 02:36 PM
 
Peony's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2003
Posts: 15,918
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 7 Post(s)

DD1 got one right when she turned 8. She is heavily into sports and is dropped off daily at practice alone. While she could find a coach and ask for permission to use a phone if wanted to call us, it made her feel more comfortable knowing that she had the ability to call us herself. We don't call her, well we could but we have her phone set to silent because she keeps it in her backpack at school and she doesn't like to change it. If there is a change in plans, we just wait for her to call us because if someone is one minute later to get her, believe me, she is already dialing their number! It has been over a year and she has been very responsible with it, she checks it daily to make sure it it charged and in her bag. We also put it in her jacker when she snowboards in case she gets separated from her team or DH. I'm glad that we got her one. There have been numerous incidences where it was essential. 


There is no way to happiness, happiness is the way.
Peony is online now  
Old 02-07-2012, 02:37 PM
 
TiredX2's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2002
Location: it appears to be a handbasket
Posts: 20,029
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

We got DD a phone when she was in 7th grade (here there is elementary school through 6th and then junior high).  We figured it would be more likely she would need to contact us at that point.

 

They are now shifting to middle school, so DS will probably get one when he is in 6th grade.  Of course, with our family plan additional phones were so cheap we would have been fine with DS getting one when DD got one, but he emphatically didn't want one.

 

DD texts a lot, too.


 

 

TiredX2 is offline  
Old 02-07-2012, 02:41 PM
 
Drummer's Wife's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2005
Location: Land of Enchantment
Posts: 11,487
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

My older two kids have phones - smart phones, even.  They will be turning 11 and 9 next month.  I don't care if they chat with friends and text - that's pretty much why they have phones (well and to get ahold of me and watch Netflix - lol).  

 

Im sure most kids, adults even, don't *need* a cell phone, so I can't come up with an arbitrary age.  I do know my almost 7 and 5 yr old kids really don't need phones.  They do have iPod touches, though, so all the capabilities besides the actually calling that their sibling's iPhone has.  

 

Like a PP said, it was cheap to add phones to our account.  Like, $9.99 more a month, and the phones were free or like .99 cents with a 2-yr contract.  Even my kid's iPhone was free b/c it was an older model.  It wasn't a huge deal to get them phones.  


ribboncesarean.gif cesareans happen.
Drummer's Wife is offline  
Old 02-07-2012, 03:22 PM
 
~cassie~'s Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2006
Location: louisiana
Posts: 168
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

My soon to be 7 yr old has my old iphone.  It doesn't have phone/text service though just apps.  I figure once he is being dropped off and left and needs a way to contact me.  Maybe by age 10.


Cassie, mom to Alex(7), Aidan(5), Andrew(4)

~cassie~ is offline  
Old 02-07-2012, 03:32 PM
 
Join Date: Jul 2011
Posts: 4,031
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 10 Post(s)

lurk.gif

Imakcerka is offline  
Old 02-07-2012, 03:59 PM
 
34me's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2006
Posts: 2,457
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

We had an extra phone when my kids started doing activities on their own, that whichever kid was on their own took it.  Otherwise it was in a drawer.  They have each gotten their own phones when they went into 7th grade.  That was the year I stopped dropping them off and picking them up from school.  They were on their bikes.

34me is offline  
Old 02-08-2012, 06:51 AM
 
Youngfrankenstein's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2009
Posts: 2,225
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

I'm not sure.  My oldest is in 6th grade and I haven't felt ready yet.  I'm not against cell phones, I have one, but I am leary of opening a can of worms.  My oldest has an ipod touch and that's about as advanced as we are right now.

 

I just don't think opening the floodgate of phones, texting, and FB is a good idea yet.  I often hear of teens who feel "enslaved" to their phones once they have them and have people text them a lot.  And I think peer pressure makes it hard for kids to turn it off.

 

I don't know when we'll go there but we just can't afford anymore distractions in life right now.


Mama to 4. winner.jpghomebirth.jpg
Youngfrankenstein is offline  
Old 02-08-2012, 06:57 AM
 
Join Date: Jul 2011
Posts: 4,031
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 10 Post(s)

DD1 Just asked for one for her birthday this morning.  I was hoping this wouldn't come up this soon.  She does use my phone a lot to talk to her Aunts and grandparents.  I'm thinking maybe.

Imakcerka is offline  
Old 02-08-2012, 07:23 AM
 
tiqa's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2012
Posts: 501
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

DH has an iPhone and loves it.  I couldn't justify the expense personally and I myself have just a basic, ugly, un-smartphone that only has basic phone and text functions.  I would NOT be getting my kids anything that I wouldn't even let myself splurge on!  I might get them a very basic cell phone plan when they're... I'd say about ten?  Who knows what cell phone options they'll have at that point, though. 

tiqa is offline  
Old 02-08-2012, 08:15 AM
 
4evermom's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2005
Location: PA
Posts: 8,752
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 4 Post(s)

For me it's more about whether the child is out and about on their own than their age. Dh and I each have a basic flip phone. Ds will use one that has the numbers programmed in to call me if I'm out and I can see giving him one if I was dropping him off somewhere, even just a playdate. He likes to check in with me from time to time and might not feel comfortable asking to use someone else's phone if he is having a problem at their house. His friend's phone number is also programmed in so he'll call him once in a blue moon, too.


Mom to unschooling 4everboy since 8/01
4evermom is offline  
Old 02-08-2012, 11:08 AM
 
ollyoxenfree's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2009
Posts: 4,895
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 3 Post(s)

 

My dc were 13 and 10 y.o. when we hit the point where we were all involved in so many activities that it made sense to communicate directly using cell phones during the day. I was working cross-town part-time on an irregular schedule. The kids had many after-school activities. Relying on school secretaries and other parents and dance/drama studio receptionists etc. to pass along messages became unworkable - and resulted in a few worrisome incidents when my messages didn't reach the kids or the kids didn't get access to an office phone.   

 

Honestly, life became so much easier to co-ordinate when we could communicate directly and quickly. Cell phones are a useful convenience. If a child is 8 and that convenience makes sense, then why not use it? If a child is older and doesn't need it, then that's okay too. 

 

ollyoxenfree is offline  
Old 02-08-2012, 08:44 PM
 
Elcie's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2011
Posts: 41
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

We have a "family" cell phone with my voice on the VM. DS 1 or DS2 to use as needed. Their friends are welcome to call or text but they know it's a family phone and there have been no issues.

 

Elcie is offline  
Old 02-09-2012, 05:06 AM
 
mom2mygirls's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2002
Location: Texas
Posts: 3,356
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

I got my oldest daughter a cell phone when she was in 7th grade.


Mom to  Rachel 15 Kimberly 12 Chloe 10 and Nathaniel 8
mom2mygirls is offline  
Old 02-09-2012, 07:34 AM
 
Youngfrankenstein's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2009
Posts: 2,225
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)


Quote:
Originally Posted by Elcie View Post

We have a "family" cell phone with my voice on the VM. DS 1 or DS2 to use as needed. Their friends are welcome to call or text but they know it's a family phone and there have been no issues.

 


I'm guessing this will be our first step. No texting, just a phone to take when needed.

 


Mama to 4. winner.jpghomebirth.jpg
Youngfrankenstein is offline  
Old 02-09-2012, 09:50 PM
 
meemee's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2005
Location: Norther California
Posts: 12,623
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 22 Post(s)

it is different in our case. as coparents.

 

since i didnt have a cell phone dd's dad got her a cellphone at 5.

 

since 8 dd has soooo badly wanted her own 'phone' - not to use as a phone but to use to download and play games. she has a DSi but still would much prefer the iphone. or itouch. 

 

i have started leaving dd alone at the library now at the age of 9. if i had to get her a phone, i'd get it now. 


 treehugger.gif Co-parent, joy.gifcold.gifbrand new homeschooling middle schoolerjoy.gif, and an attackcat.gif 
meemee is offline  
 

Tags
Child , Childhood , Children
User Tag List

Thread Tools


Forum Jump: 

Posting Rules  
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off