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#1 of 3 Old 03-25-2012, 03:07 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I'm seriously losing it with my DD. She just turned 7 a few weeks ago, and her attitude SUCKS all the time. I mean, I really can't communicate with her at all anymore. Every time she says something to me or responds to something I say, it is with major attitude (read: eye rolling, disrespectful tone, groaning, etc). 

 

She's in a private Waldorf school (1st grade), and I've read a little bit about the 7 year change or "first adolescence"... I guess this is what it looks like?? I'm definitely willing to change my approach with her if need be, I just am at a loss for how to do it. 

 

Should I give her more responsibility around the house? More structured activities? Less? If anyone has BTDT, I'd be very grateful for some advice!


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Dd is 7 3/4 and yes, the attitude is a pain.

 

For our dd, things that help are: spending more one-on-one time with me, physical exercise, and a lot of repetition of the phrase "that sounded rude, try again." I ignore eye rolling (it doesn't bother me like it does other people), and will pretend I don't hear tone/remarks if she's actually doing what she's asked.

 

It's getting better, I will say, so I have some hope that 8 might be smoother. Then again, it might just be that spring is here and she's outside a lot more.

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My ds is 7 and I have been sooo challenged by the attitude and also just not listening/responding to me.  I was reading something though about this being a tough moment for kids as far as establishing power/autonomy and there is a lot of insecurity about "who they are".  I have been following the recommendation of tons and tons of affirmation, you're a great person- I love how you are so good at____, thank you for being so kind, loving, generous etc

It has made a huge difference for us-  as long as I remember to keep up with it.

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