In kindergarten or maybe 1st grade there was a fire safety program that scared me badly too. There was a mock house of some kind (rv?) and a drill where groups of kids take turns evacuating it. I was somehow feeling like they'd simulate a fire in there with smoke or something, and had a total breakdown about it. As a result I couldn't light the stove til I was 12 and never sat near campfires, hated candles, incense, etc, and watched any fire I was around very warily after that. I'm still a bit jumpy about fire but can use it ok now. Once the safety rules were learned I felt it was best if they'd quit reinforcing it. Eventually it sunk in that the drills were just practice, there were many drills throughout the grades but there never was a fire, but if there were we'd do the same thing and leave in a line.
Thanks so much, Jamie. That must have been so frightening for you! Someone else shared almost the same story with me. I think I'll just wait for him to bring it up and keep offering the same reassurances, and hopefully it will sink in. Thank you!
actually at 5 also many kids hearing is still super sensitive. in dd's K class some of the kids were excused from the fire drill because the sound of the alarm really hurt their ears.
so perhaps you can ask the school if he can stay out of the fire drill, if he wants to.
I think that is definitely part of the problem, too, meemee, and thanks. I'll see what the school says when he goes back; hopefully we'll be able to come up with something that will work for him.