Ideas? What to do when child physically attacks you? - Mothering Forums

Forum Jump: 
Thread Tools
#1 of 4 Old 01-09-2013, 08:26 PM - Thread Starter
marlee's Avatar
Join Date: Aug 2005
Location: Canada
Posts: 767
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

My daughter is 7 1/2 and when she is tired she gets out of control.  She came at me today screaming, scratching, hitting and kicking.  I often try to keep her at a distance with my arms or legs, turn my back or get to another room.  I can't always do this if my son is with me. (I try to keep him away from her or closely supervised or she will hurt him as well)  She has always been like this (not frequently thank goodness!) and I could physically restrain her from hurting me.  But now I can't and I find if I grab her arms or trying to pull her it is too physical and she is focusing on me hurting her.


I welcome ideas, suggestions and shared experiences.  



Mama to two beautiful children. 

marlee is offline  
#2 of 4 Old 01-10-2013, 09:57 AM
vermontgirl's Avatar
Join Date: Aug 2006
Location: Northern Vermont
Posts: 2,124
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

Personally, I think she needs to see a therapist. Our son is also kind of aggressive and he sees a play therapist, who also councils his dad and I regularly about parenting. I don't think it is something to be taken lightly. 


Good luck. 

Living the Joyful life as a mama of three beautiful children who are just right the way they are.

I blog at chicken3.gif

vermontgirl is offline  
#3 of 4 Old 01-10-2013, 10:08 AM
Peony's Avatar
Join Date: Nov 2003
Posts: 25,333
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 5 Post(s)

My oldest can get physically aggressive, she is 10 now and it has been an issue for most of her life. She does see a therapist and has for years. I would really second the therapy suggestion. We had to search and try several different therapist before we found the right one. Play therapy did not work for DD1. We settled on a therapist that does a lot of mediation and guided imagery in her sessions, we've been with her over 3 years now. DD1 will request to have an emergency session when she feels she needs it but she also has become largely accountable for her own behavior. Not to say we still don't a have issues once in a while but they are minimal compared to what they used to be and her harming her siblings hasn't occurred in quite some time. 

There is no way to happiness, happiness is the way.
Peony is online now  
#4 of 4 Old 01-10-2013, 12:25 PM - Thread Starter
marlee's Avatar
Join Date: Aug 2005
Location: Canada
Posts: 767
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

Thank you for your replies. 

I wanted to really look at this right away when it happened as it may not happen again for who knows how long.

There is an understanding to why this happened (transition back to school, not enough sleep) but I don't want to use this to excuse for such unacceptable behaviour.  I will also be recording agression to her sibling (which happens much more often and vice versa) to get detailed and accurate information.

I put a call in to a counsellor that works with children and am waiting to hear back.

Mama to two beautiful children. 

marlee is offline  

Quick Reply
Drag and Drop File Upload
Drag files here to attach!
Upload Progress: 0

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on the Mothering Forums forums, you must first register.
Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.
User Name:
If you do not want to register, fill this field only and the name will be used as user name for your post.
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.
Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.
Email Address:


Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.

User Tag List

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page

Forum Jump: 

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off