Should I put my son in class with young 4 yr olds or middle/older 4 yr olds? - Mothering Forums

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My son will be 4 yr and 4 mos in the next school year. I had planned on putting him in the middle and older 4s class. However, today I was pulled aside and asked if I would consider the early 4s class as they had 13 enrolled in the middle/older 4s and maybe half that in the early 4s.


For this school year, he is in a class with middle/older 3s, 4s and even some early 5 yr olds who just missed the cut off for kindergarten and he is doing well.


My thinking is that he is better off with the middle and older 4s, esp as he will be preparing for kindergarten the following year. I have also read/heard that they learn lots of new things from older kids, even though in this case, we are talking months. But, kids can change a lot in just a few months. To me, it's kind of like if you want to become a better tennis player or whatever, you play with someone "better" than you.


What would you do?

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I too, had the same options last year. I decided to put him with the middle/older 4s since this class would all be going to K the following year. He has a late summer birthday. He's halfway through and doing great and learning so much and will be ready for K in the fall.

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If you are set in sending him to kindergarten with that same group of kids, I'd probably keep him with that group.


When is his birthday?

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Dd seems to be right in the middle of the older and younger kids. However, I don't know if she is learning anything from the older kids. I think she is ahead in everything that's being taught (she's always bored doing her homework) so she doesn't have anything to gain from the older kids.

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All things being equal - same classroom with same resources, same teachers and support staff, same programs offered - I would probably opt for the smaller group of children. He will get more attention from the teachers. They may have more time and energy to help him explore different aspects of the program or to try different activities that are difficult with a larger group of children. There will be less competition for resources in the classroom. Also, there may be some benefits to being one of the older children in a classroom. If he is one of the more mature children, not just age-wise but emotionally and socially, it will be an opportunity for him to develop and use some leadership skills. That will promote his self-confidence. 


You'll find lots of support for either side of the argument about being the oldest vs. the youngest in the early years of school. For many years, being the oldest seemed to be favoured. Redshirting became a popular phenomenon. There's been a predictable backlash. In the past couple of years, the pendulum has been swinging back. Now you read lots of good things about being the youngest. I'd take it all with a grain of salt. 


Honestly, I think it's more important to look at the whole learning environment and consider the entire individual child when making the decision. Generally, I'm a little skeptical about how much difference a few months' age makes in a classroom. At that age, individual development and maturity vary so widely. You can have quite mature 3 y.o's and very immature 5 yo.'s. It's also not unusual for children to demonstrate asynchronous development where they may be advanced in some areas but not in others. Personally, I prefer multi-age classrooms where students have a wide range of ages but again, I would consider lots of factors, not just age, in making a choice.


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