Additionally, she has a very short fuse and will often throw her toys if they don't cooperate, rip her clothing apart of she can't button it, etc. I will admit that, first of all, *I* can be like this--many people comment to me that I always seem so calm and put-together, but behind-the-scenes I tend to be disorganized and have a bit of a temper.
Hmm. Is she ever seeing you react this way (throwing things, etc)? She could be similar to you genetically and just have your nature or she is mimicking your behavior (or both).
She could be reacting to the stress within the house. I know when DH and I have periods of more intense stress (due to work, etc) is probably extremely obvious to DD. She really is watching our every move (as annoying as that is!).
I recommend reading the book Simplicity Parenting. It has some great insights as to why kids act out and how to ease their daily life to give them the peace they need. I don't think ripping clothes if she can't button them sounds normal but I could be wrong.
Does she really rip her clothes? I don't think that sounds normal, but my DD (newly 6) will throw a toy or crumple up a paper if she gets frustrated. When this was more prevalent, I tried to react calmly when I made a mistake and say something like, "oh well, everyone makes mistakes." I wonder if making a show of calm reactions to stress would give her a new approach?
-Ecstatic mommy to amazing DD, 2/07 :
She may not be handling stress well. It sounds a little like my daughter. She can be the cutest, nicest, generous being but...
My DD goes to a waldorf school and they talk alot about the 6 year change, that starts around 5ish. You might want to read up on it. We live in AK. And outside time is a must. My dd goes outside everyday at school and we try to get both out for a little during the week and more on teh weekends. Are there any neighborhood kids she can play with? Does she take any Vit D? My girls get 2000 when I remember.
And the good news is that it's getting lighter and lighter.
My DD just told me she was stupid, she hates herself and no one likes her. I think she gets that from shows that she watches and then wants to see the response she gets at home. So #1, we try to cut TV time. #2 let her know that she is loved. She is very dramatic but goes on cycles. Kinds of like her mama!!
Sue, mama to Spitfire (4/06) , a Firecracker (9/08) , and Chill baby (3/12)
i think being slightly depressed around 5 or 6 is normal. they are really hard on themselves.
its not real depression. its more of a struggling to figure out how to fit into society and that leads to depressing behaviour. its the beginning of discovering of self.
i am one of those parents who feel being bored is a good thing. that's teh time when teh parent needs to make sure they give their child lots of opportunities - art, playdough, puzzles, markers and dry erase board, bean bowl - but the child has to figure out what they want to do.
give her chores to do at home. maybe she can help you chop stuff up for dinner. or get the mail from the mailbox and sort it out for you in two piles. look for opportunities where she can help her brother. be very descriptive with the instructions so she cant mess up. it sounds like she is her own worst critic.
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