". . . girls go to Jupiter to get more stupider."
some boys said that to 6 yo dd at after-school art program.
That chant has been around pretty much forever. It's not nice, but I doubt we'll hear the end of it anytime soon. My daughter heard it for the first time last year and she's super sensitive but her response was, "stupider isn't even a word, they are never going to get into college."
I don't like it, I really dislike the millions of things that disparage girls as they have a hard enough time of it, but it really is a good lesson in letting things roll off. It's not giving in or buckling under, it's rising above. You can always tell her to report it to the art teacher if it really bothers her.
I heard this just today in reverse. It led to an interesting discussion with my friend regarding the graduation rates for 4 year colleges and universities, which are decidedly skewed female. Which is all well and good until those college educated females wish to marry. If they wish to marry a college educated male, there simply aren't enough to go around. Granted, there are many cultural and societal norms that will play out, and plenty of women, college educated or not, won't want to marry, won't marry a male, or won't marry college educated.
The take away message is simply there are more college educated women than men, there have been for at least about 10 years, and the pattern is only growning stronger. As a mother of two boys, this is very worrisome to me.
but maybe that's not the direction you wanted to take this conversation.
I did tell her about that. We also noted that dh and I fit that pattern, and discussed which of us is smarter, ;) as well as whether my college degree and his lack of one are related to our intelligence. Also noted that most of the teachers in her school are women, and all have college degrees.
dd1 said it could be reversed, but she also corrected the grammar/word use.
I don't know if we had that when I was a kid. Sounded vaguely familiar, but not sure which way it went.
The college experience was very important to both me and dh, but neither of us works in the field we studied, and by the time our kids are of age, we don't expect the system will look anything like it does now. No telling what options will exist, or what their best choices will be. So, I don't think I'd worry about your sons yet. As a mother of daughters, I'm a lot more worried about the teen pregnancy rate here. :)
Yup that has been around for a long time. We also did "Boys/girls go to Jupiter to get more stupider, Boys/girls go to Mars to eat more candy bars." We can hope that one day the gender wars of Elementary school will end, but I doubt it.
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I don't know about anyone else but Ima go to Mars! Yum...
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OK sort of off the original topic - but interesting comment none the less....my 18 yr old DD was musing one day that 3 out of 4 of her grandmothers (two are step-grandmas) have a Masters degree of some sort - all 4 have a 4yr degree - NONE of the 4 grandfathers finished college.....i have a 4 yr degree - my XDH never finished college - ...so she commented that the women in our family were MUCH smarter than the men ....until my DH pointed out that BOTH of my younger brothers finished a 4 yr degree - then went on to marry women with doctorates (a PHD in English and an exotic animal vet!) ....so DH feels these boys are pretty darn clever after all....lol
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It's just one of those silly chants, but it's good for spurring discussion!
The similar one I heard from my cousin, interrupted by his mom, was:
The girls go to Mars, to drive bumper cars.
The boys go to Venus, to play with their--
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