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#1 of 3 Old 10-18-2013, 09:24 AM - Thread Starter
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DD is in kindergarten and is saying she doesn't like school because the teacher yells a lot. She says she doesn't want to go to school, is asking to go to a different school or be homeschooled.

Short of switching her to a different school, does anyone have advice on helping a child with this issue? Changing to a different class within the school is not an option.

She is a "good," rule-following kid, and the teacher has told her, "When I'm yelling, I'm never yelling at you. When I say, 'everybody,' I don't mean you." But understandably, DD still hates the yelling.

The teacher has been at the school 13 years, and I don't think it's likely we're going to be able to change the way she manages the classroom.

Maybe we should have yelled more around the house when she was little, to build up her tolerance. eyesroll.gif Because her parents, grandparents, and preschool teachers weren't yellers, I don't think she's ever experienced anything like this before.

We would like to try to make this school work for DD before we give up on it. Ideas, advice?
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Have you observed the classroom to see what kind of yelling is going on?   Is the teacher raising her voice to be heard or is she yelling at the children because she cannot control them otherwise? 


I would have a problem with a teacher yelling, even if they told my children they weren't yelling at them specifically. To me it indicates lack of control and it is disrespectful to the students.  If a 7th grade teacher yelled now and then I would maybe understand...but a kindergarten teacher? No way.  


I want my children to feel comfortable with the adults they spend their days with. Being yelled at or hearing other kids get yelled at would be very upsetting for my little one.     Is there another classroom your DD can switch to?

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Teachers have class sizes big enough to be not heard and they have to talk over the kids. I used to substittue and find that it's harder to get the younger kids to hear you. 5th graders and older seem to know the 'order.' I don't agree with it but I understand that teacher's aren't left with a choice many times. They have to get a lot of work finished and they have deadlines like before the winter break finish an x amt etc. A friend of mine is a pre-k teacher and she was telling me that they spend like I think, 40% of the time just in controlling rather than in instruction in the sense getting the class to be quiet etc

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