My son has been a terrible sleeper since birth. He was waking up every 20 minutes for about two years. At two, after he weaned, he began sleeping two hour stretches. Now he still wakes up 3-4 times a night. I lay with him in his bed till he falls asleep, then in the middle of the night he comes over and spend the rest of night in my bed. Sometimes he wakes and stirs, sometimes he wakes because he's thirsty, sometimes he needs a cuddle. He has never slept through the night ever. There was a period where he would kick and toss himself violently. I'm a light sleeper which is a problem. I am due in July with his sister and I'm absolutely terrified of the ongoing sleep deprivation. i was hoping to get some rest before she gets here to deal with the needs of a newborns waking but I doubt it will happen.
I've racked my brain to try and figure out how to deal with this. I've considered food allergies, over stimulation, under stimulation, eating habits, emotional distress, and the list goes on..
Can someone offer some advice or share similar experiences?
Newly single mama to Ds (2009) expecting in July (2014) Its a girl! I'm down with ,,,,
all while rescuing pit bulls
I would look into food allergies/sensitivities. You can do an elimination diet where you remove 1 thing at a time to see if things change and/or take him for an allergy test.
I think you need a way for him to be awake without bothering you, at least some of the time. Here's what we came up with when my son was 6:
The basic strategy is to tell him to try to get back to sleep alone and watch his digital clock, and if he's still awake when the hour changes then he can ask for parental help. It worked much better than I expected! At 4.5 your son might not have the patience for it, but it's worth a try. A basic digital clock can be found for <$10, and if he doesn't already have one then the excitement of having a new gadget will help to motivate him.
Mama to a boy EnviroKid 9 years old and a new little girl EnviroBaby !
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