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Fear of breaking stuff and parent getting mad
 
At Lance’s house, he and his friend Ben are having a snack. Ben bumps his mug on accident and it falls on the floor and breaks. He freaks out scared.

Ben: oh no! i’m gonna get in trouble.

Lance: it’s ok, it was just an accident. 

[lance picks it up, it was only in 3 pieces, and puts it back on the table.]

Ben: but he’ll be mad.

Lance: no he won't.

[rick, Lance’s dad, comes into the kitchen.]

Rick: hi ben.

Ben: hi.

[rick notices the broken mug on the table.]

Rick: oh.. what happened?

[ben says nothing]

Lance: ben knocked over the mug on accident.

Rick: ok. let me get the mop.
 
[Ben notices that Rick isn’t mad and does a sigh of relief.]
 
Rick: it’s no big deal. mistakes are common.
 
Ben: i know.
 
Rick: well, if you knew, then why were you worried?
 
Ben: I thought you’d be mad.
 
Rick: but why would i be mad for a mistake happening? it’s not like you did it on purpose. and it’s really easy to fix.
 
Ben: but what if the mistake is really bad?
 
Rick: well, sometimes that happens too. but it’s not the end of the world. we can try to do better. like in this case, i don’t really know what happened but maybe you can try to improve the way you handle cups.
 
Lance: ya you could try to make sure your cup is away from the edge of the table.
 
Rick: right.
 
[Rick goes to get mop and comes back. while mopping.]
 
Ben: but what if I forget?
 
Lance: you can learn to make it a habit, so then you don’t forget.
 
Ben: how?
 
Lance: well for me, my dad helped me out by just reminded me each time he saw my cup on the edge.
 
Rick: ya reminders can be helpful.

 

 

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Well handled, I think.

 

For stuff like broken cups, I usually add that I break them, too.  Things break, accidents happen to grown ups and kids alike. The important thing for me is that it gets cleaned up, or, in the case of a broken glass an adult is called in to clean it up so no shards are left.

 

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i started the OP to start a dialogue about why kids get scared about making mistakes.

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