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"Shy" 4 yr old and preschool
Our 4 yr old (Jan birthday) is extremely hesitant and retiring around groups of other kids - she has a lot of fear around rambunctious kids especially, and is just generally shy. She is fairly comfortable in one-on-one situations with new kids, but still takes about 15 minutes to observe and get her bearings. I see her carefulness and observing nature as a positive thing, but I really worry about her seeming inability to stick up for herself - even as a one-yr-old she would never protest or resist when other kids took her toys.
So my Mom thinks that she needs to go to preschool for the socialization. It's not like she has no exposure to other kids, but Kindergarten will be very overwhelming to her as things are now. I'm torn about it... there are no local options for anything like Waldorf or Montessori, and I am not to keen on conventional education for real little kids. She certainly does not need preschool for the educational component - she's very bright and has been self-motivated to learn most of what she would get in preschool already. It could really be helpful for her if she would get accustomed to being around groups of kids, but I'm afraid it could backfire and cause more anxiety. And I'm concerned about messing up her natural drive to learn by starting with school too early. We've considered keeping her out of kindergarten anyway, and sort of un-schooling for that year. But I am really torn about the socialization aspect. Any thoughts from those of you with "shy" kids?
Work at home, homesteading mom
sharing child care 50/50 with my wonderful WAH DH
. DD1 born Jan. 2010.
March '12. DD2 & DD3 (twins) born Feb. 2013