Exhausted referee needs advice/to vent - Put my 6 y.o. boys in separate rooms?
In just a few weeks we will be welcoming our new baby girl into the family. With my husband and 6 y.o. twin boys, our house has been a man's world for the past few years so I really excited this one is a girl. The thing is ever since we told our boys about the new baby, one of my sons has been really pushing the limits with what he can get away with. For the past week things have really gotten a lot better as a result of more praise for good behavior and I've given them more activities to make them feel like they are a part of welcoming their baby sister into the family. The behavior that is concerning me most is how he is treating his brother. While the behavior towards me and my husband has improved some as well as his attitude towards the new baby, he is starting to take things too far when it comes to how he treats his brother. Calling him names, pinching/hitting, not sharing, saying mean things, etc.I know the change in their relationship hurts my other sons feelings, but it also hurts my husband and I to witness it if that makes sense. I'm actually kind of shocked by this because, while they've definitely had their tiffs before, they've generally gotten along pretty well until now. Lately I've just been praising them for playing nicely (when they play nicely) and when things turn ugly, I try to either separate them or help them work together on something they both enjoy. I'm seriously considering putting them in separate rooms or at least giving it a test run. These past few weeks have just been totally exhausting for me physically and emotionally. My husband says this is normal stuff (he has brothers, but not a twin brother) but I'm not sure I should accept this behavior as typical sibling squabbles because its hurtful. I'm willing to try anything to get my boys to get along and not fight. This is especially important to me now because once I bring the baby home, I can't imagine having to deal w/ this too on a daily basis. Separate rooms sound necessary or no? This would also mean preparing another bedroom in the midst of finishing up the nursery. Maybe separate day camps this summer would be a good idea?