Join Date: Jul 2005
Location: Northern Virginia
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I have mixed feelings about a heads up from the parents. We've been at both ends of the situation. My son used to hang out frequently with a kid who was 4 years older. I knew the friendship would eventually wane because he was so young and his friend is now in high school. My son keeps texting his friend to get together and his friend is always busy. I'm starting to feel like these are excuses sometimes and the older kid is letting the friendship go a bit, and I have gently spoken with my son about it because he is frustrated that his good friend can never get together anymore.
But the parents are also not calling us to get together anymore and are also "too busy" when we call them. I finally gave up. Maybe we're ALL getting the brush off! heh
My son has also ended a friendship. I would have felt really awkward talking to the mom about it. It turns out my son ended the friendship because he felt his friend dropped the eff bomb too much and wouldn't stop, even when my son told him it wasn't cool to swear so much. He said he became embarrassed by his behavior every time they were out. I didn't find this out til well after the friendship ended. I'm not sure what I would have said to the mom, though. The friendship ending wasn't sudden, though. It was a gradual end where they saw each other less and less as my son would give him another chance (sometimes at my urging because I didn't know why he was ending the friendship and his answers were not straightforward).
So, being at both ends of the spectrum, I'm not sure. Part of me is probably feeling dissed by the parents of the older kid, too, because I feel like we used to be friends. So I want to talk to them anyway. I think if that is taken out of the equation, I don't really need the parents to talk to me about a friendship ending. Such things happen sometimes and, because I have noticed it happening with my son, I have made sure to foster other friendships and encourage him to partake in other activities so his weekend isn't riding on seeing the one friend.
Married, part time work from home mom to DS (13 and homeschooling), DD1 (11) and DD2 (9) and a giant dopey newfoundland, a crazy border collie mix, 3 black cats and a cute rat.