Join Date: Aug 2004
Location: Eastern Washington
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Be gentle and consistent, but also be direct. Don't expect her to understand if you talk around the subject. Give her guidelines such as: please ask someone if you can hug them goodbye/hello/etc
if they say no, that means no--but that doesn't mean they don't like you
little kids do better with soft hugs (demonstrate--bear hugs (hard), and kitten? hugs (soft))
Also, by letting the parents know that you are working on it, they can help the child receiving the attention. We had a "strong" hugger in our friend group. I knew the parents were working on taming that. I spoke with my children about ways to help. The strong hugger is still a close friend of ours and she has learned to moderate her affection. Truthfully though, it is still hard for her. My girls have chosen to embrace it and they have become willing recipients of her bear hugs.
Mom to three very active girls Anna (14), Kayla (12), Maya (8).