Join Date: Jun 2005
Location: Somerset County, NJ
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9-year old separation anxiety?
My 9 year old started camp today - only 3 hours a day for the next 2 weeks. We have always AP'ed - we homeschool, they co-sleep, etc. She is usually not super attached - she goes to a part time school 2 days a week, has playdates without me, and went to the same camp last year without issue. Today when I went to drop her off she was weepy and sad that I was leaving. She asked me not to go (I work part time and I had to get to work, or else I could have just stayed around without thought). I stuck around for a bit (and then my husband got there early to wait around before picking her up), but she kept coming outside to see that i was there - each time crying when I asked her if it was alright for me to leave. Tonight its seeming like she really doesen't want to go back tomorrow. She loved this camp last year, has some kids she knows from our homeschool co-op but says she just misses me and doesn't know anyone. I normally would just say ok, lets not go back, but I feel like she's been having more anxiety lately and it builds and get worse. Also, something that my husband and I think may have something to do with it, my father in law was in the hospital for the past month and was really sick with CHF, she saw him there and knew that he was so sick that we weren't sure what the outcome was going to be (he is home now and not as bad as he was but still nowhere near as well as he was months ago). While at the hospital she started having an extreme fear of elevators and wont go anywhere near them now. She had a couple major meltdowns at the hospital which ended with us having to walk up 6 flights of stairs. This same behavior has occurred over the last year with removing splinters (she hid one from us for a week and it become infected) and touching her earrings (when she got them pierced years ago one got infected and since then we can only change them when she's sleeping). She lets this fear build up inside of her and then she explodes on me and my husband.
Okay, to end my saga, should I just drop it and say we won't go back? Part of me thinks to just let it go b/c things seem to spiral with her if we harp on it.. The other part of me is worrrisome that we are letting another anxiety stop her from doing something. Is this common among this age?
homeschooling mama to ella (9) and maya (5)