I've posted here on mothering before, but created this anonymous account due to the sensitivity of this issue.
I don't know what to do. I love my husband. We've been married for 8 years. We have a 4 and 5 year old and a 3rd child on the way. I'm a full time SAHM.
My husband sometimes loses his temper. He's left bruise marks (from grabbing too hard, and one time from hitting) our son - who is now 5. This has happened three times in total. He always feels bad afterwards. While he still yells, he hasn't been physically abusive (to the point of leaving a mark) for about a year or so.
Today, my 4 year old daughter came crying to me. She and my husband were playing piano, and evidently she scratched my husband. My husband responded by scratching her back!!! She had three scratch marks on her forearms, maybe 5 inches long or so. They were swelling up and bleeding. Not bleeding profusely, but bleeding. I cannot believe that he did this. I'm just heartbroken and in shock.
My husband seemed to feel bad. I made him leave the house for the day. I've been crying (trying to hide it in front of the kids) every sense.
I don't know what to do. I told my husband that if he ever hurt our kids again, our marriage was over. This was about a year ago - which was the last time he left a mark on our son.
I don't know what to do. I know my husband has been feeling a lot of stress lately. Not only am I pregnant, but also dealing with a cancer diagnosis. I had to have surgery a few weeks ago for it. (I'll be fine in the long run, but there is more treatment head in my future - namely radiation after the baby is born.)
I don't know what to do. OK, I've typed that three times now.
He feels bad. The kids adore him. He is a good dad 95% of the time. The kids are so loving and forgiving even when he is a total aXXhole 5% of the time. I'm scared to leave and be a single mom of three kids and dealing with cancer. Our kids love him. My husband is usually so loving and gentle, but he has a temper that comes out sometimes.
He's never physically hurt me... just the kids. ;(
God, I can't stop crying. I'm sorry if this doesn't make much sense.
I don't know what to do. Am I over-reacting? Do I just need to chill out?
I'm afraid to tell my parents, or my church friends... I'm afraid of someone calling DHS and taking away the kids. I think he needs anger management help or something - but I'm afraid to make him get help because wouldn't the counselor be obligated to call DHS? I've heard so many horror stories about DHS... I feel so alone with this.
I love my kids so much. My heart is just broken. I don't understand how he could physically hurt them. I don't know if I can ever forgive him.... They are so precious and so innocent. I don't understand why he can't control himself better.
Please... someone help give me some perspective.
I don't know what to do. I love my husband. We've been married for 8 years. We have a 4 and 5 year old and a 3rd child on the way. I'm a full time SAHM.
My husband sometimes loses his temper. He's left bruise marks (from grabbing too hard, and one time from hitting) our son - who is now 5. This has happened three times in total. He always feels bad afterwards. While he still yells, he hasn't been physically abusive (to the point of leaving a mark) for about a year or so.
Today, my 4 year old daughter came crying to me. She and my husband were playing piano, and evidently she scratched my husband. My husband responded by scratching her back!!! She had three scratch marks on her forearms, maybe 5 inches long or so. They were swelling up and bleeding. Not bleeding profusely, but bleeding. I cannot believe that he did this. I'm just heartbroken and in shock.
My husband seemed to feel bad. I made him leave the house for the day. I've been crying (trying to hide it in front of the kids) every sense.
I don't know what to do. I told my husband that if he ever hurt our kids again, our marriage was over. This was about a year ago - which was the last time he left a mark on our son.
I don't know what to do. I know my husband has been feeling a lot of stress lately. Not only am I pregnant, but also dealing with a cancer diagnosis. I had to have surgery a few weeks ago for it. (I'll be fine in the long run, but there is more treatment head in my future - namely radiation after the baby is born.)
I don't know what to do. OK, I've typed that three times now.
He feels bad. The kids adore him. He is a good dad 95% of the time. The kids are so loving and forgiving even when he is a total aXXhole 5% of the time. I'm scared to leave and be a single mom of three kids and dealing with cancer. Our kids love him. My husband is usually so loving and gentle, but he has a temper that comes out sometimes.
He's never physically hurt me... just the kids. ;(
God, I can't stop crying. I'm sorry if this doesn't make much sense.
I don't know what to do. Am I over-reacting? Do I just need to chill out?
I'm afraid to tell my parents, or my church friends... I'm afraid of someone calling DHS and taking away the kids. I think he needs anger management help or something - but I'm afraid to make him get help because wouldn't the counselor be obligated to call DHS? I've heard so many horror stories about DHS... I feel so alone with this.
I love my kids so much. My heart is just broken. I don't understand how he could physically hurt them. I don't know if I can ever forgive him.... They are so precious and so innocent. I don't understand why he can't control himself better.
Please... someone help give me some perspective.