let me just clarify at the start - this isn't a case of a child being restricted to just granola and raisins while i'm sitting around eating hohos & bonbons
WE as a family have sweets/treats etc.
i regulate the when - no ice cream for breakfast and no desserts late at night (we end up with a behavior problem)
so yesterday i get a big box of assorted stuff from my mom for my birthday. there were some books/toys for dd as well. in it were two candy bars from FLA that we dont get. dd (5 1/2 yrs) took them both, without asking and ate a whole one without sharing. i found out and said that i was said because they weren't hers and she didn't ask. she knows the if its not yours rule - ask.
so last night dh brings me a birthday cake from a real bakery, which is an extra special treat! we serve it to us here (dh, dd and me). i then tell dd very explicitly DO NOT TOUCH THE CAKE.
later on i went into the kitchen and saw the frosting was removed from the top by fingers (not mine).
i put it away in the fridge and looked dd in the eye and said "if you dont understand let me know but DO NOT DO NOT TOUCH __MY__ CAKE" do you understand? she says yes
today she got into it (ate a significant amoutn of it)
so i know its a kid thing to swipe frosting and that wouldnt bother me as a whole (in fact i'm just as tempted myself). but this CONTINUAL lack of respect for MY special food is pissing me off. i share 99.9% of the house, the water, the food, the bathroom etc. at least ASK before taking something, ESPECIALLY when i said it sooo freaking explicitly!!!!
short of locking it up in a hidden place - is there something else i shoudl be saying to get respect shown? my goal is to at least be asked before its taken