Originally Posted by Mary Sarkisyan
I am a college student, studying Human Development, researching about the question "Does Play Influence in Who Preschoolers Grow to Become?" Therefore, I d like to ask parents 12 questions about the topic.
1. Are you a father of a preschooler?
2. Are you a mother of a preschooler?
3. If you walked into your preschool son's classroom, to find him playing around in a pink princess dress, how would you react?
4. If you saw your son playing with baby dolls, as if he was taking care of it by feeding, bathing, diapering, putting it into bed, how would you react?
5. If you saw your daughter in her preschool classroom, playing with trucks, cars and tools, instead of dolls, how would you react?
6. Would you blame and become upset with the teachers?
7. Would you escort your child to play with toys that are specific to their gender roles?
8. Would you think your child would grow up to become feminine (if they're a boy), or masculine (if they're a girl), if they continued this behavior?
9. How do you feel about parents who raise gender neutral kids?
10. Do you consciously or unconsciously influence your children into stereotypically specific gender roles?
11. Do you generally feel positive or negative about gender neutral upbringings?
12. If you were educated to understand that whatever play your preschooler engages in, could influence or predict who they become in the future, would you be more cautious of what you allowed your children to play with?
>I don't have any son's, but as a ece caregiver for many years, I would find this very odd. I have never seen a young man choose that sort of play without prompting from an adult.
>I would very much expect that, caregiving is not a gender specific job. However, I would have to explain that he wont get to grow breasts and provide milk the way I do as an adult (at least based on the way my girls model me nursing).
>My girls play with cars just as much as dolls. These are not gender specific either because they are everyday things in their lives. They build little wooden toys all the time though. So, I wouldn't consider that playing, that is just a child hard at work
>*If* my children were in a daycare other than the learning center I run from my home and I had a son and walked in on him playing in a pink princess dress, I would assume it was due to teacher prompting and I would have a conversation with the teacher. That is pushing an agenda on a child and completely inappropriate no matter what the agenda. I am a christian and I would never suggest the kids I care for play specifically with our Noah's ark or other Bible themed trays. Let parents choose what values to instill in their kids. That is way too close to the line many socialist countries peddle about children belonging to the nation as a whole rather than individually being a part of a family unit. I will post a link about that: http://chaosforkisses.blogspot.com/2...overnment.html
>No, you never interrupt a child's play. It ruins their concentration and stops the learning happening in that moment. At a later date, I would just not offer it. If he honestly chose that. I don't have an issue in dress up. But, again children do not choose to play in a way that isn't modeled to them in their lives somehow.
>If he was continually prompted to visualize himself as a female, he would become more feminine. If he was not allowed to play with a kitchen or baby doll, then he may not be as comfortable with those tasks as an adult. But, I didn't grow up with a father and never saw anyone fixed things. But, I learned how to change my own oil and tires in college. It would only be bad if you specifically told a child that they could not do those things in real life (ie help in the kitchen or cuddle with baby sibling)
>When I first became a mother, I consciously tried to stay very gender-neutral. I like to tell the story of my oldest picking out her first pair of flip-flops at 1yo. I was drawn to the camo pair. They would not look as dirty when splashing through the mud and I like camo. But, as I was pointing to them she grabbed the purple and pink sparkly pair. It has been all princess and pomp ever since. And she is leading her two younger sisters in her ways, lol. I did consciously pull her out of dance class because I was frustrated to see the recital routine contain sexually subjective moves in a beginner class (not that it would matter, no girl needs to be taught that this is how to express her femininity. That is just insulting)
>I think it depends of the approach. If your approach is to push the opposite gender in the name of gay rights or sexualize girls in the name of woman's rights, I have a real problem with that. If you are just letting kids play with things that represent the real life around them, then that is just common sense (or it should be).
>I think my comments about dance class address this last question. However, I am not sure what you are looking for in this question. Are you saying if we "understood" that letting children play with "gender-neutral" toys makes them more well rounded, would we offer toys meant for the opposite gender? or, if we "understood" pushing kids toward specific toys would make them more likely to choose a gender identification, would we be less pushy?