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I'm a special education teacher and help design behavior charts for kids with ADD/ADHD, emotional disabilities, and behavior disabilities. Your post sounds like you said you would help design a chart for the school to use and to me, that doesn't sound like a good idea. The school needs to create the school's chart because a behavior chart needs to follow the detail of a child's schedule, be easily implemented, and provide immediate feedback.
In order to be effective, a behavior plan needs to require behavior that the child is actually capable of, and needs to address the function the behavior serves for the child. This is a really basic step, and speaks to what Lauren said. You have to understand the behavior before you can change it. For example, if your son is confused by the work at school and is acting goofy rather than admitting that he is lost, you can offer him a trip to Disney to sit still, be quiet and do his work, it work fix the problem that he CANT do his work. If they problem is that he needs more physical movement, more sensory input, a pair of glasses, a little tutoring, etc., no behavior plan will work.
Once you are 100% what is causing the behavior and 100% sure that you are requiring a behavior that he can do, then finding a reward that is meaningful is super important. Some kids do well with a physical reward (one of my students earns Pokey Man cards, but a lot of students do well with extra time to do something they enjoy (earning time with an art box) or extra attention (time to read together). One size fits all rewards seldom make a change for kids with real behavior problems. You have to know what is truly meaningful for the child.
But, unless you are making a plan for behavior at HOME, I still feel you are on the wrong path. You can't implement a plan at school any more than his teacher can implement a plan at home.
My suggestions are to start with the basics -- have his vision and hearing tested. Find out where he is academically compared to the demands of his class -- is the work too hard, or too easy? Explore his diet and see if certain food effect his behavior in negative ways. Consider the total amount of movement he gets and the total amount of time he spends setting in front of screen (tv or computer).
I suspect that many parents would support school behavior MORE by getting their child into a disciplined sport such as swimming or a martial art, and then by making reading and board games a corner stone of time at home rather than TV, rather than by offering ice cream cones and extra screen time.
but everything has pros and cons