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One of my dds is thinking about potty learning. She's been staying dry overnight for a wile now, so I started suggesting she use the potty in the mornings. At first this was great, but then she decided she didn't want to wear diapers anymore. So I thought maybe she was ready to potty learn, and I let her go without diapers from that day on.
On the first day she managed to stay-dry. On the second day she still managed to stay dry through the morning, but seemed to be holding it in IMO. This worried me since it can contribute to UTIs, etc. Finally, she just let it go all over the floor, even though I had asked her several times that morning if she needed to use the potty, invited her to use the potty while I did, etc. Of course we were very sympathetic, but didn't make a big deal out of it, cleaned her up, and went on with the day. The short story is that she continued to have accidents nearly every time she went, including poopy ones, and sometimes she wouldn't even tell me, and I'd just find her wet or poopy or both.
I noticed that she seemed more stressed out during this time, so I was concerned she wasn't really ready. After the third day of consistent accidents I told her that I wasn't sure she was ready for the potty yet, and that if she wanted to learn to use the potty that was okay, but that it was also okay if she wanted to wear her diapers still. She chose to wear her diapers, and she seems relieved by this; however, she also wants that diaper off the *minute* she pees or poops. In fact, every time I've suggested she could use the potty since then, like when she wants to run around bare bottomed, she replies, "no, diaper".
So it seems she's not *really* ready, but is thinking about it. I think she liked it until she realized it was going to be a lot of work on her part too. So, we've been watching potty videos which she's stuck to like glue. We're also looking for some potty books, so if anyone has some to sell PLMK.
It was so exciting to think that one of them might be out of diapers at least part-time. That would cut down on my workload so much--instead of every other day, I'd only have to wash diapers 2x per week. Also, we'd save money on clothes because all of those 2T pants we're growing out of would suddenly fit us perfectly.
Arrgh, how do you know when they're ready, and if you think they are, what do you do? I was thinking that maybe soonish I would encourage her to use the potty while we're home, but I don't want to push her either.
Wow, this post got LONG. If you made it this far, "Thanks!", and of course, any and all advice, tales of experience, comisseration, and/or insights are welcome.