Okay, I've completely edited this post because it seemed to invite responses which were accusatory and meanspirited. The original replies to my post were thoughtful and very constructive and helped me to see that a system that worked when DH was smaller (toy swapping, rainy day-boxing and toy rotation) are not working now that he is approaching three.) I thank you for those responses.
Admin Note: I have removed the thread for the same reasons mentioned above. If those of you who posted to this thread would like to open a new thread about the same topic you are more than welcome to do so. If you would like the contents of your removed posts to use for such a thread you may contact me and I will send it to you by PM so you can replace it in the new thread. ~Cynthia