kirsten, as i mentiond a while back i think you have the perfact thing going for your children.
although for my son i know i couldnt have put him newhere at 3, hes one of those "spirited" children, highly sensitive to noise and stimulation. but i see him evening out a bit, and by four i would think hed be ready for such a thing.
alas we have no such option here, as i suspect that kind of caring option is simply not available in most parts.
when i first starting thinking about the possiblilityes of preschool, the images in my mind were of the classic-
lots of loud noisy unorderd children with one or two teachers, no parents and not on a level of ap standerds.
so i think it has a lot to do with the options open to a mother and her child that reflects how much they think preschool is valuavle to her child.
like many of the moms here have mentiond finding very bad things going on in their or other's preschools, unforturnatly i think thats the norm. however i also think its the norm for parents not to think of those things as bad.
this is why we are here, in the minority. triing to raise our children to the best of our ability including thinking for ourselves.
i know i wouldnt put my child in one of those places , and ive been lucky not to have to. but if i had a flexible,low child ratio,parent involved, gentle disapline, focused on more play then acedemics kind of place, i wouldne even look at that as preschool.
it sounds just like an extension of community life, and i think thats something most of us long for. a real community. most of us as apers know it really takes a village to raise a child but being in the minority there are hardly ne options for us to do so without slipping into the mainstream areas.
its too bad, and i appluad ne decision of a mother or father to do whats best for their child and not just what everyone else is doing.
there simply cant be a "preschool is bad or preschool is good" attitude inside a consious parent. its all about context.