Ds is 6. He lies a lot. He lies with a completely straight face and will get very vehement defending himself.
I read here that lying is normal for this age still, that "the truth" and "a lie" are fuzzy for them. Often it seems this is the case with Ds -- his lies are so obvious, but he sticks to them so hard, that it seems like he's really trying to change facts to fit the way he wishes they were.
I have a hard time accepting lying as "normal". Intellectually I know it must be, at some age anyway, but lying was a huge hotbutton for my mother and so it gets a kneejerk response from me. I have issues with being perceived as an honest person, and I tend to overreact when I know Ds is lying because "an honest person" is something emotionally very important for me that he be. KWIM?
Also ... at 6 still? Really? My mom was a teacher and had child development knowledge up the wazzoo, and she never would have tolerated lying as something to be expected at that age. Now, I'm not propping her up as some sort of saint, or even saying I necessarily want to emulate her (after all, all her child development knowledge didn't keep her from abusing me), it's just another roadblock to understanding for me because it goes against my previous understanding of appropriate expectations.
So ... sources? Personal stories? Advice for coping?