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Linda in Arizona 12-30-2001 04:26 AM

Now that our youngest child is 3, leaving the kids with a sitter and going out for the evening isn't a big deal. There were several years when we didn't go out without the kids at all. For about the last 1 1/2 we've been able to go out as long as we were only gone for 2 hours and got back before DD#2 needed to go to sleep. But we have reached a new mile stone because our youngest child fell asleep with a baby sitter.

This is a huge event for me.

We stayed out until almost midnight and sat in a jazz bar. I haven't been some place like that in over 5 years.

Our sitter is an old friend our family. Our kids love her and were so busy showing her their toys that they didn't even want to say good bye to me or hug me or anything.

This is just sort of wierd for 2 kids who went through phrases where they would scream if they couldn't see me, had to be carried in a sling, could only fall asleep while nursing and so on.

peggy 12-30-2001 07:24 PM

You go girl!!! My dh and I are hoping to go out to dinner tonight. I gotta' tell ya, it's touch and go. Youngest is 9 months old and we are leaving her in the care of 16 yr. old sister,14 yr. old brother and 21 yr. old brother and we are still freaking out. I should say I am freaking out. DH is so desperate I think he'd leave her with wolves! LOL!

I let you know if we make it!


Missgrl 12-30-2001 11:57 PM

Linda in Arizona---

All I can say is...............I'm jealous!
My oldest is almost 4 and my youngest is 16 months so we are working on it!

Oh wait..........gotta go now my babe needs me to fall asleep.....LOL

Linda in Arizona 12-31-2001 03:18 AM

Originally posted by peggy
DH is so desperate I think he'd leave her with wolves! LOL!
ROFL!!!! This has been a HUGE issue in my marriage for a long time (about 5 years) and my DH is thrilled.

Do you guys that AP is hard on your marriage? I think it was when the kids were really little.

lilyka 01-01-2002 10:01 PM

Yes I think AP is hard on a marriage. It is hard on me. Not to mention parenting is hard on a marraige. Or maybe I should say it is hard on people in general. But it is only for a season. It forces everyone to stretch and grow up. To give up some stuff and really appreciate it when they get it back. I think if your marriage never experinces these things in some form then you never have a mature relationship.

We were lucky to find a group of sister to babysit who were Ap'ed and extended breastfed and full of strength and patience. Ahhh, the perfect combination and they are cheap cheap cheap. My dd (19 months) doesn't even say good bye anymore and has long since given up the courtusey cry (you know the tear jerking mom please don't go that ends before you get the car door open, maybe it is something just my kids do). SO I guess that is half the battle is finding a good caregiver.

rocketmom 01-03-2002 05:54 AM

Ahhh, it is nice to know that there is light at the end of the tunnel....only 1 1/2 years to go until dh and I can "date" again. Our littlest one is 20 months. We are trying really hard to make more time for eachother intead of just doing the "parent thing" together. It is so easy to get wrapped up in the kids and forget about "us". We have been trying to create dates, at least once a week, at home after the dds go to sleep. For example, watching a movie, a bath, etc. Has anyone else tried this? Any suggestions for dates at home?

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