My 3 yr old dd has always been the laid back child, the one who watches things, but doesn't need to be the center of attention or action. She's very attached to mommy (as she should be), still nursing occassionally, sleeps in our bed when she chooses to, etc. She hasn't ever done anything organized away from Mom or Dad. Recently, she wanted to start taking dance lessons. I looked into it, and enrolled her in a studio that allows the parent to stay in the room. I was
to find that there were studios that would not allow the parent to stay! However, she has been in lessons for about a month now. She loves to go to dance, I'm sure that wearing the dance outfit is added benefit for her
! She just refused to participate. She'll stand there, in the line, and watch the teacher and other girls, but she doesn't participate. She does all the things at home. She will ask me to help her practice her dance, and she does all the stuff the teacher showed them perfectly, but she just doesn't do it in class.
Then, last weekend, we enrolled her and ds (6) in R.E. I had the 2 yr old and she was fussing somewhat, so I took her out of the room. (stupid me, what the
was I thinking, wearing a dress!?
) So, we go nurse, calm down, change dipe, come back, and dd(3) is now talking with the teacher, talking with the other students, playing along, where previously, she'd been sitting on the floor where they asked her to, but not participating.
So I think, maybe I should try leaving her at dance, not hover, so to speak. So I asked her if that would be okay, and she acted kind of hesitant, so I didn't push the isse. But yesterday, on the way to dance, she said something about dancing in class for Ms. Dani, and Mommy going to run some errands. So, after getting her settled with her shoes and potty, I gave her a kiss, and told her I'd be back really soon. I gave one of the other moms my cell #, just in case. I went for a walk around the block, and peeked in the window. She's *dancing*. She's participating! So I walked for a while longer, until about 10 minutes before class ended. I got back and tried to sneak in the door. She was doing *great!*. Then she sees me. And stops.
? I mean, she stayed on the floor, but she didn't do one more thing to participate with the class.
What is going on here? She said she wanted to do preschool this year, then said she didn't because I wasn't going to be there. With Daddy gone, I didn't want to encourage her too hard, she's really feeling the separation from him, I didn't want her to feel that I wasn't going to be available to her...you know? But these two instances make me wonder if it's me, if I'm holding her back in some way. I've always asked her when we go somewhere, to a playdate, etc, if she wants me to stay and she always says yes, stay....but obviously, she comes out of her shell and has a much better time if I'm not around.....which makes me so very
How do I handle this? Anyone have any experience with this one?
Thanks so much!
Then, last weekend, we enrolled her and ds (6) in R.E. I had the 2 yr old and she was fussing somewhat, so I took her out of the room. (stupid me, what the
So I think, maybe I should try leaving her at dance, not hover, so to speak. So I asked her if that would be okay, and she acted kind of hesitant, so I didn't push the isse. But yesterday, on the way to dance, she said something about dancing in class for Ms. Dani, and Mommy going to run some errands. So, after getting her settled with her shoes and potty, I gave her a kiss, and told her I'd be back really soon. I gave one of the other moms my cell #, just in case. I went for a walk around the block, and peeked in the window. She's *dancing*. She's participating! So I walked for a while longer, until about 10 minutes before class ended. I got back and tried to sneak in the door. She was doing *great!*. Then she sees me. And stops.
What is going on here? She said she wanted to do preschool this year, then said she didn't because I wasn't going to be there. With Daddy gone, I didn't want to encourage her too hard, she's really feeling the separation from him, I didn't want her to feel that I wasn't going to be available to her...you know? But these two instances make me wonder if it's me, if I'm holding her back in some way. I've always asked her when we go somewhere, to a playdate, etc, if she wants me to stay and she always says yes, stay....but obviously, she comes out of her shell and has a much better time if I'm not around.....which makes me so very
How do I handle this? Anyone have any experience with this one?
Thanks so much!