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Yes, I think this is normal. My son was wont to gender bend when he was around that age--he would wear my old headbands and try to tuck his penis under, and nurse his baby gorilla, trucks, anything that was handy.
He is now 7 and still will nurse a crying baby gorilla or other stuffed toy.
To be honest, I was more worried about all of that than my husband was. Sean made the very good point that my son adored me and why wouldn't he identify with me, just as he did his dad?
The other day my girly 5 year old girl wanted to play prince and princess with me. There was a dragon lurking and the princess needed saving. She took her brother's Ikea sword and shield and brandished it about, while I was the fair maiden in distress. She was the prince. Very strong, with a low voice, had very good swordsmanship, she was very gallant and the dragon didn't stand a chance. She has also tried to pee standing up so she could be like her brother. This is my sweet girl who also has told me that my nipples "are great!!" and that she would also like to have breasts like mine so she can nurse too! (She weaned at 4)
My son is allowed to like pink and dinosaurs. My daughter is allowed to like pink and show me how strong she is when she imitates me and throws herself to the ground to do Pilates 100.
Most importantly, I think kids just need to feel good about how they are understanding the world. Trying out these different ways of behaving is all part of that.
I wouldn't be worried. No, that's not true--I would be a little worried and then I would remember all of my husband's good advice.
Crunchy check list: 2 homebirths (one accidental UC!), co-slept, no CIO, cloth diapers, home/un school, raw milk drinker (!) I am a walking cliche!! I even blog and knit...