I'm glad to hear you have a point in which to look into for improvements now. I can understand why you don't want her to feel there's anything "wrong" with her....because there isn't! She's a beautiful child with a bit of challenge in her life right now! Right now she doesn't need anything but love and direction.
Proper medication can do absolutely wonders for the behaviors that were the initial concern. My son went on risperdal and he became huggy and happy, and stopped banging his head around! He also did not get any side effects because his dosage is closely monitored. Monitoring dosage as the child grows is extremely important! The medication is also non-addictive.
He now an active grade 5 student with lots of A and B grades! He was told of his diagnosis because he kept asking why he had tics (he was 7). I sat down and explained tourettes syndrome to him, and at the time there were kids with the disorder on one of the afternoon shows, they were singing and tap dancing. They were wonderful beautiful kids, and I showed him the tape. He also had a great therapist available through his school. There are also doctors and such with the same thing, and I told him about that. He knows he's one of a large group of wonderful people! He'll still have his bad days, nothing like he was! His main problem right now is anger management, and he'll always be very active, but he has friends and loves math! He also just got 94% on his last spelling test! Right now he's doing homework, and needs a little redirection when he gets frustrated, but he is so motivated to "get it right"!
*** Risperdal is not for ADHD though! My son has a dopamine imbalance (tourettes), and that is not the same as ADHD! People with schizophrenia also use risperdal. (Medications used for ADHD make tourettes and schizophrenia worse..worse angry outbursts, more unreasonable thinking..if this happens to your child with an ADHD diagnosis you know the diagnosis is incorrect-this did not happen to us though because his tics were a clear indication of tourettes and he was monitored for six months, five days a week by the best specialist in Alberta)
I have no advices for ADHD myself, but it sounds like you have some great moms here with experience!
I've just shared a bit of my experience, and hope you get a lot of support and information that helps your dd live up to her fullest potential.
For anyone who's curious, my sons tics include eye rolling, shoulder movements, dolphin-like noises, jumping, "huffing", etc. Some days he'll tic all day, others you don't even see one!