Hey - I think if you prefaced the giving to the kids with "Here's some money to put into the donation bin" then I think you do have the right to say either it goes into the donation bin or it goes back to me. I fyou gave him the choice, and you don't like his choice, well, um, I guess you gotta suck it up, mama. Sorry. I wouldn't be happy either. I think it IS a personality thing. Some kids are good sharers and some kids just have a hard time with sharing. For a long time, even though she is a good sharer, I didn't do any of that kind of donation in front of dd becuase I think it is hard to let go of toys and books and clothes. But when she was weeny, like 2 I think, and did her first halloween trick or treet, I decided (when she came home w/a bag of candy as big as she was LOL) that we would split the candy in half and give half to children stuck in hospital who couldn't trick or treat. So that first year we did it, and we've gone and done it ever since. She has a LOT of control over what she keeps, like basically she can keep as many things as she is old, and then the rest get put into piles of Hershey bars, Smarties, M&M's etc. and then half of each pile goes back in her bag, so she still has a TON of candy left (enough to last till easter LOL), but she ALWAYS comes with to donate the candy. She really likes it, and it doesn't even take an hour of our time. The pediatric ward here has a Ronald McDonald house, which is a great place to leave it. Last year there was an 11 yo boy who was hit by a car on Oct 30th, and we gave him the entire bag (his half LOL). So I think that's helped her learn to let go a bit. But she still doesn't like letting go of toys LOL.
Mama to B and O , wife to J and me to me! :