I will try my best to explain why I ahve not contacted DH or the command. If you don't know the military this will all be greek.
The suspect's step-father is in Iraq. His Mom and I are both volunteers in the Family Readiness Group. She is in charge of all the wives in the battalion. It is split into 5 different companies and I am in charge of my husbands company.
As soon as the news hits in Iraq, I can't count on the service members to keep this confidential. Sad but true. They will tell their wives and this family will find out prior to the authorities contacting them.
If I tell DH now, he will not be able to handle the news, as well as the the fact that NOTHING has been done by the investigators. The suspect has not been questioned or taken into cutody and this is day 3. We have the interview this afternoon and this evening I will get a message to DH.
I was afraid of telling him that it was just this incident, because I believe it has happened before. My DD has been around the suspect frequently during the deployment.
I am completely torn onthis, but I have to tell myself that I am protecting DD. My husband will have to understand that I was trying to keep the case confidential. I do not want the family to have a chance to create a story, get a lawyer etc. They should not be prepared and waiting for the authorities to contact them because they heard about it through the grapevine.
In the civilian world, I would not have these concerns. Fortunately, DH is getting out of the Marine Corps in 2007.