As for the OP...
Your sweet DD will get through this and she can be healthy, trusting, loving and happy.
Despite my own abuse when I was younger and the other horrors I went through as a young woman, I am doing pretty darn good.
My oldest daughter, Marrissa, struggled with her abuse and a mental illness. The combination of the two were more than she could take and we lost her to suicide in 2003.
My other two girls, despite their abuse and the loss of their sister have blossomed. One is a 3.9 GPA student in school, active in her ASL group and planning on being a nurse. The younger one loves school, her friends, and life. She is always smiling and laughing. Both have healed very well with love, therapy, the ability to talk about it if and when they needed to and in knowing they were safe in their homes and in the world.
You are a loving mom and with you and your dh at her side, she will come through this.