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#211 of 222 Old 05-06-2006, 08:05 PM
 
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I am new here and I just read your OP and your Update.
I cried a few tears and I am so so sorry that happened But I am glad that your dd is doing better bighugs to your family
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Thank you for the update. It's good to hear that you're all moving towards some form of healing. Many hugs to you and your daughter.

Take care, Nicole.
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hugs to you and your family mama. You are such a good mother for believing her and protecting her s

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On behalf of all those who were molested as children...Thank you for believing her!!

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I tried to pm you, but it wouldn't go through.

I actually want to thank you...sounds weird, I know....I was molested when I was 4 a number of times by a 15/16 year old male babysitter and when I finally told my mom, though she believed me, when he said nothing happened she dropped the whole issue, as though it never happened. She never talked to me about it, never pressed charges, and I grew up thinking I was horrible and shameful and dirty my entire life and also believing that is wasn't ok to talk about...well, I just finished up 6 years of therapy. I remember asking my therapist once if I would have been better if I had therapy when I was little and he said things would have turned out better if my mom had thought about my feelings rather than her own (basically she was too afraid, feeling guilty etc. to notice that I was feeling a lot too)..

anyway, I could write a book, but I want to thank you for everything you are doing for your little girl....what an amazing mom you are (I'm totally sobbing right now, but in a good way)...

peace to you on this mother's day.
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USMCbaby - I just saw this thread now and wanted to send you all the positive vibes, prayers and hugs I could. And as Fyrestorm said, "On behalf of all those who were molested as children...Thank you for believing her!! " You're a good mama. Much love to your family.
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Hope this doesn't effect her childhood or alter her life in any manner. I am praying for you.
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You are such a strong mama. You have done everything right. I pray for healing for your family. My dd was molested by my ex so I know what you are going through. Stay strong. You dd knows you love and protect her, that's the best medicine for her.
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Thanks for the update- I've been wondering how things were going for your family. I think the best way to deal with your guilt is to forgive yourself for being human. As much as we may like to be able to see in other people's minds and hearts, we can't. You're doing the right thing by getting dd help and more importantly, using the legal system. While you may feel some guilt (definetly not justified!) about dd, think of all the other little girls out there you have saved. Your dd will heal and thank you for handling the situation with the tenacity and grace you did.

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