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well, what's convenient for the adults and best for the doggie? razi is still young yet, and it will not be a big deal if he is not present. it would be different at 5 and older. it does depend on the kid and your energy for the situation as well. it also depends on how strongly your dp feels about it and your dynamic with him. putting a dog down is not easy to do and does take a bit of figuring out how to approach your child.
we put our dog down when the kids were baby 3 and 5, and it was confusing for them because he literally looked asleep instantly, and then the vet took him out to bury immediately which we did not watch because i felt it would have been not understandable. maybe we should have brought him home, and keep him until the kids really saw that he was dead and buried him ourselves if we were to have better understanding for all of us. i think the boys still wonder if we didn't just abandon him sleeping, and what would have caused us to actually decide such a thing. i try not to regret how it went, those bad bad days. i don't know a great way. it hurt us adults very badly to make that kind of decision at the time, so it was very hard to explain it to the kids. we did try to make it simple.
so i guess i'm recommending that you make it a mystery and fairy tale. like the vet decided to send it to doggie heaven. and tell him the dog was thinking about him when it left - no good byes, but a memorial after would do.
clay wants all the medicine too.
i think ruby grew an inch this week.