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#1 of 3 Old 01-19-2002, 04:41 AM - Thread Starter
 
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My soon-to-be 8 y/o DS is starting to talk about sex. He is obsessed with one of the girls on our block, who is also in his class at school. This has me in a state of panic. I have a somewhat unhealthy attitude about sex, I mean, my parents never told me anything. They just assumed I would wait until I got married. So, I don't know how to talk to my son about this. Anyone know of any good books appropriate for this age group?

Also, if this isn't too personal, how would you handle non-verbal sexual issues? (Um, like masterbation, child getting an erection.) This makes me very uncomfortable and I either pretend not to see it or say that it's ok to do that, but better to do it in private. I don't want to view my innocent little boy as a sexual being! But I'm afraid that if he senses my hang-ups about sex, he will think it (or he) is bad...

BTW, DH is not DS's dad and I can't really rely on DS's real Dad for much support...should I let DH approach this subject?

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Sounds like you're doing a great job, Paula Bear. The "please save that for in private" message is so healthy and balanced!

We, too, are looking for a book for DS with a little more detail than we've already provided. My brother's sons both did great with getting some objective basics out of some books "casually left" in their bathroom during these pre-teen years, of course with both parents available for discussion as well. I think that would be a great way to lay some groundwork.
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